Give them some time to work it out themselves. Make suggestions as to how it might be solved, if you need to. Give them a set amount of time to do that, at which time it remains unresolved and they are still arguing. Send them to separate rooms with the instruction that they are to stay there until such time as they can get along. When they come out, if they go back at it, spank the whole lot of them since you will never be able to determine who actually started the original fight. My dad used this method, and he seldom had to use it, because we knew that if we didn't get along, Dad would eventually settle it and it would not be pleasant. It was a wonderful incentive to love the siblings and to get along with them. My dad used his belt, which today would be considered abusive, but he had three very well behaved, respectful children who loved their siblings. I think it's the only offence for which he ever spanked me.
at 10:51 AM on Feb. 8, 2010