Cant seem to keep the house clean come in and clean everyday but the next day its all messed up, any advice on how to de-cluter my life so things can stay clean?

Make sure everyone cleans up their mess.

When you figure it out..let me know! lol
I'd be so much happier if I was "bewitched" and could just wiggle my nose and make the house spotless in an instant,lol.

Choose one thing that seems to be a top culprit of clutter to focus on for now.

Maybe it's mail everywhere, maybe it's shoes or bags scattered by the door. The decide an organization system that you and your family would actually do, and work on getting that in place.

Remember the key is to figure out something you all would actually do. If the system is too complex or out of the way, it will be awesome,  and annoyingly never used. 

Join the group Declutter, Clean and Organize Your Life  for tips, advice from professional organizers, and PLENTY of support!!! 

i know what you mean OP, I clean up and my son destroys something or SO brings it back to how it was or sometimes in worse condition. it drives me nuts lol. But that's just how it is! I don't mind the house looking lived in, or that it definately looks like a toddler lives here... but I do expect SO to put things back the way he found them or to hang his clothes in the closet (which he doesnt, he prefers the floor). as for our son, he is starting to learn how to clean up his toys with me. I'm no mommy dearest, but i'm not a slob either.

oh and what helps me stay sane, is I focus on one room each day. I do a good vacuuming/sweeping job, I throw away trash, put things back in their proper place or start a donation bag and it really makes a difference! Yesterday my focus was the dining room, and today my focus was folding the laundry from our bedroom which has been in a pile in bins for weeks. It feels so good to just accomplish those little things!

Definitely....FLYLADY.NET! the absolute best!!!!!!!!