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Would you also be a part of a site open to moms/dads if this site were still moms only?

There were questions earlier that made me think. Legit concerns that men would come here try to use this site as a dating site and hook up with vulnerable women (very possible) if this site were open to men. I do think it’s good to have a mom’s sanctuary where we can share tips but I also think that we as women in relationships with our male counterparts have times where an outside male perspective would’ve helped.

The question I have is if there were still CafeMom where it’s female and moms only. Then they made a site for fathers, CafeDad, where it’s men and dads only. Then they made a third site for all parents, CafeParents, where the rules were no pic's allowed just pre-made icons, and site rules was much like the Moms and Dads site set up to share parenting questions and idea's would you be a member to both moms and parents site or just cafemom because who cares what dads or guys think on parenting?

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Asked by Knightquester at 2:34 PM on Feb. 9, 2010 in Just for Fun

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  • nope I would not
    associating with males online KNOWINGLY in an intimate setting is innapropriate to my marriage vows

    Answer by sati769leigh at 2:39 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • Umm...I dont know..I'de really have to think about that one. Really..the only male opinion that matters to me is my SO's.(well..and my sons too,lol)

    Answer by kimberlyinberea at 2:42 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • huh? Can you talk to men in real life sati769leigh? I'd be cool with what you're suggesting knightquester.

    Answer by TMJ121099 at 2:43 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • I would. We had some very nice dad 's with real concerns on Clubmom.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:45 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • Yes.

    I posted that original question because I thought it was an interesting concept as i stated, women's magazines have men contributors with "their side" so to speak it would be fun to have a guy's side in some issues like religion and relationships only. Men are going to come here regardless, just hidden as a female, it's not like the cafemom admins come knocking on your door to verify if you are a female or not. So they are still lurking in the shadows even if you don't "see" them here. I think some of the people who replied missed the point of what i was saying. They got rather upset although maybe i just misinterpreted their tone and sarcasm hard to tell when you aren't face to face.

    I belong to a pagan network, yet they allow non pagans/christians to be members because there are various viewpoints that both sides can learn from being on the site. See things from a "different perspective". That's all i was saying.

    Answer by CinderAmethyst at 2:48 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • Online conversations can sometimes be very intimate. I just would not be comfy sharing the same way I share here

    Answer by sati769leigh at 2:51 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • I dont think there is a point to having a "cafeparents" would just turn out like myspace or facebook or myyearbook or something....I mean, it isnt like we always talk about just our kids...I see alot more questions about other things ( and some are about sex and relationships etc.) ...eventually (sp) wouldnt work can easily talk to men about parenthood or whatever else on other sites... they could come up with a cafedad...but it wouldnt be anywhere near as popular as cafemom...because, really is there really that many dads who are going to get online just to talk to other dads... I feel this site is for women to get on here get advice and basically complain about our husbands/boyfriends and our kids.... I just dont see that many men doing the same....


    Answer by glamomomo at 3:57 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • I would do both. I think that's a good idea.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:12 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • I'm sorry sati769leigh but I don't understand your point given if it's a forum like any other site (which I post on many gender neutral sites) then it's being monitored and inappropriate posts get deleted just as this site; they can make restrictions if they feel the site has too many chances of intimate things happening, i.e., picture sharing and online person to person chat outside posts.

    I see where your thought process is going glamomomo however the reason why this site isn't myspace, facebook... isn't because it's primarily women using it; it has to do with the site engineers, managers and admin working so well to form a good functioning site. To reiterate this site is monitored and if it were the same on any other site then I am betting there would be less concerns of improper behavior. As per the guys talking about raising children, relationships, politics and religion, I know more than handful that do.

    Answer by Knightquester at 4:12 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

  • I like the idea. I would like a man's perspective on some things. Not just my husbands ideas.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:30 PM on Feb. 9, 2010

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