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i got the adoption papers in the mail a few days ago and the only time i can seem to be able to pic them up and fill them out is when i'm angry or upset about something idk what to do

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lonemom1987

Asked by lonemom1987 at 4:52 AM on Feb. 11, 2010 in Adoption

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  • are you adopting or giving a child up honey?
    sati769leigh

    Answer by sati769leigh at 5:01 AM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • After looking at your page I would take a guess that you are planning on giving your baby up for adoption. If you're having a hard time signing the paperwork then hold off. It may not be the best thing for you and your baby. Adoption is final you have time before you have to sign anything. If they're trying to push you to have it all done before the baby is born then just tell them you need to wait.

    If this is a case of being a sergeant mother then you really need to think hard because this baby is not just yours but someone elses as well who has just as much right to the baby as you do. This could end up a big mess so I'm hoping this is not the case.
    baconbits

    Answer by baconbits at 10:11 AM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • Don't sign anything till after your baby is bor,n.There isn't any rush ,there are always waiting parents.
    Baconbits what is a sergeant mother?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:18 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • I understand from your home page that you are only 3 months pregnant. You absolutely should NOT be signing anything at this point. The choice to give your child up for adoption needs to be made twice. You can decide now to make an adoption plan, but after your child is born, when you really know what it is you are about to give up, can you really decide. Not only that, being in a heightened emotional state of any kind is not the time to sign papers. You should be completely calm and rational. At that point you should be able to take as long as you need to make up your mind. After all until then you are plainly a mother just like any other and at no obligation to give your child to anyone. There's nothing that says you have to sign in the hospital either. If your agency/facilitator is pressuring you to sign something now, they are clearly not an ethical agency. Run, don't walk, away from them and find another agency.

    onethentwins

    Answer by onethentwins at 12:45 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • You are NOT obligated to anyone but that baby! Do NOT sign a thing right now! You dont owe any agency or lawyer a thing! You have a lot of time to make this final final choice.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:03 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • crying Isnt it a sad world when the statement that you are going to bring a living breathing person into the world is shown the with following graphic on your page. You will be okay. Maybe you will place the baby for adoption, maybe you will not. But no matter what, you were trusted with one of the most amazing jobs on the planet, you get to... you are honored to... bring new life onto this planet. That is an amazing thing, stop and think about that. You have a ton of time to make the other decisions and deal with the babys bio dad, just relax and try to enjoy this little miracle. 

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:29 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • Sorry bad spelling but that's the best I can spell it. I mean where a woman is paid to have a baby with a man's sperm because his wife can't have a child. Does that help as to what I was trying to say? Surigate?
    baconbits

    Answer by baconbits at 1:54 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • you are thinking of surrogate.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:35 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • You have just got out of a bad relationship, changed your geography, and found out you are pregnant. DO NOT MAKE ANY FINAL DECISIONS YET!!!! Give yourself some time to absorb all of this and wait until you have a clear head before rushing into this. You have plenty of time if adoption is your final decision, and that can be after the baby is born. However, DON'T SIGN ANYTHING, ANYTHING before the baby is born. PLEASE do not sever your parental rights to someone you have yet to meet. There are many birth mothers on here who have been exactly where you are now, and would have chosen differently if they had waited. (Not all, but lots.) Sending you hugs and prayers that you will find peace. Check out the birth mom's groups on here. You are not alone!
    doodlebopfan

    Answer by doodlebopfan at 10:12 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • Baconbits you must be related to my poor husband a very smart man but can't spell cat.He worships spellcheck his new religion.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:19 PM on Feb. 12, 2010

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