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Alternatives to marriage counseling?

Our insurance doesn't cover it. And church counseling is out bc I don't believe in God. So are there any other options?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 10:28 PM on Feb. 11, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Figure out topics that are points of contention between you two & agree to talk, not argue about them. Agree to listen to the other & not get upset. Both of you need to be honest w/ your feelings w/out concern the other will explode. If you can't do this by yourselves then find a neutral party to mediate.
    Nyx7

    Answer by Nyx7 at 10:33 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • call a family services organization that does sliding scale. Ya gotta decide which is more important saving money to possibly save your marriage or spending money in separate households to live cuz you didn't go to marriage counseling you know you needed.

    Try for 1/2 hour twice a week to keep up on the counseling - agree that 1 goes for first two week then opposite parent goes for for next two weeks then both go twice a week for two weeks.

    You can save money and time by filling out forms ahead of time before first appointment.

    Even marriage encounter the organization is based on good.

    Or is there a family member you both look up to, maybe that person could counsel you separately then together.
    lfl

    Answer by lfl at 10:33 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • Make sure the neutral party is NOT a family member
    Nyx7

    Answer by Nyx7 at 10:33 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • since u don't belive in God how can you expect something ordained by him to work?
    my2kids312

    Answer by my2kids312 at 10:38 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • gotta disagree with third responder - a relative of husbands in a great marriage over fifty years counselled husband and me.

    But it could definitely be embarrassing to talk sex by your husband to a female elder family member or even male family elder.

    Our issues were more than sex behavior that's why it worked for us.

    op just call different organizations for sliding scale and start small. Going separately for a bit at first gives indiviudal personal anger built up ability to get out and be shown ways to handle that to move forward.

    Whatever you decide - Best wishes for you!
    lfl

    Answer by lfl at 10:38 PM on Feb. 11, 2010

  • My2kids, there are lot s of people who don't believe in God who have stronger marriages than believers....it's the PEOPLE that count here.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 1:54 AM on Feb. 12, 2010

  • You really should consider going to a Christian marriage counselor and just keep your options opened. I think it could be very beneficial to at least just see what they have to say to strengthen your relationship. Your married aren't you? And if so you got married and let the Lord into your relationship didn't you? And if not, maybe just consider going for some self help, no pressure but just to see what they say. Or may i ask why you need counseling? I may be able to give some good advice to you.
    Hesmynavyman

    Answer by Hesmynavyman at 2:03 AM on Feb. 12, 2010

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