What do you consider abuse?
Some women consider being called stupid, or told to shut up to be the worst possible thing in the world. While others endure a misery that few are ever aware of- and upon leaving the situation are shunned for ever having been in it, as though it is their fault for having been abused.
I am curious why (women in particular) are so hateful towards other women, especially in their greatest time of need?
It is true that some stay, even after multiple attempts on their lives... I was one of those- My reasons seem silly now, as hind sight is 20/20. It is not as easy as simply walking away- For some, who have experienced only verbal abuse, perhaps. But for those who live daily in fear, it is not- The homicide rate quadruples when women try to leave their abuser- Why is it so complicated to offer support, rather than being an abuser your self?
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 7:33 PM on Feb. 12, 2010
Obby- I sympathize with what you've been through. I don't think people should be verbally abusive to you because of the choices you've made. Can you at least try to see the other side of this as well? I'm not going to offer support for women to stay with abusers because I believe the only real victims are the children. They have absolutely no power in these situations. Women do have the power to leave and as much as people like to pull these so called stats on the rates being higher for homicide when they leave, there are stats from the FBI to show you that homicide and serious injury are increased if you stay. I'm sorry for what you've been through and you didn't deserve it. Some women need a wake up call with a fresh dose of responsibility to get them out of the situation they are in. If you turn it around and show these women that they are allowing their children to be abused, they might get out faster.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 7:43 PM on Feb. 12, 2010
Answer by ecodani at 7:45 PM on Feb. 12, 2010
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 7:51 PM on Feb. 12, 2010
Obby- I am referencing you in my post because I have seen posts where you have talked about the dv you've experienced. Just letting you know I'm not the evil cold-heart bitch that you think I am.
Answer by legalmommy101 at 7:56 PM on Feb. 12, 2010
Answer by ObbyDobbie at 8:46 PM on Feb. 12, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 9:44 PM on Feb. 12, 2010