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am i over reacting? we bought new wedding bands today and my husband ...

seems less than thrilled. its the set we been wanting for the past 2 years. he acts like he is being tortured to where it. he recently had a problem with a girl he works with, who is 19, she thinks she is in love with my hubby, she even posted it all over her FB wall, and he said its just her that thinks that, that he just seen her as a friend, but tried to sneek out with her the other night. and she sent him pics to his cell..nothing dirty that i know of. i had expected he would be excited to finally get the wedding bands we wanted. we didnt have any for about 2 years, the others were cheap...we actually paid 40 for the 2 back then (8 yrs ago)and they didnt hold up well. and he seems almost ashamed of the new one, he didnt even show his really hurt over this. then he said he cant wear it to work..and he works in a hospital as a nurse... what are your thoughts?


Asked by Anonymous at 4:10 PM on Feb. 13, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Several things stick out.. 1. he is not happy about the ring 2. the girl/friend and wanting to go off with her 3. The pics and texts 4. saying he cant wear a wedding band to work. That is BS, RN's wear rings all the time and if it is flat (most hospitals) have no issue with a wedding band.

    Something is going on or getting ready to. Those are alot of red flags in a short period of time.

    Answer by midnightmoma at 5:08 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • I think your dh is up to something fishy with that girl.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 4:13 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • i have to agree with the first poster...sorry :(

    Answer by mywonderyears at 4:15 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • I agree very fishy!

    Answer by JaymieZ at 4:15 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • op here

    ok how do i bring this up to him or find out whats going on?


    Answer by Anonymous at 4:21 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • I'm sure he thinks you pressured him into getting the rings "to show her". It's like making him wear a brand that says "he's mine so go away". It sounds childish to me that you made him do that when he clearly didn't want to do it. You can't make him wear it except around you and then what's the point of that? to keep you from griping, that's the point of that. If he knows she's in love with him and he is still friends with her then you have bigger problems than him not wearing his new ring. I'd be more worried about him not wearing his pants and forget about the ring.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:22 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • ok hmmm are you saying your husband has received pics of a girl from his work and he says they're just friends but he went sneaking out to see her?

    i dunno what's wrong with that sentence if the interpretation is right. Your husband isn't thrilled with the new bands cuz he's on a thrill ride of cat and mouse between him, you, the girl. Who's going to get caught redhanded? If you have seen the pictures then you've caught him red handed.

    If his were just friends with her then he'd be seeing her with you, not sneaking out to see her and not receiving pix on his cell from her.

    Go in to counselling, I suggest, to understand why you wonder if it's something to worry about considering that it make you unhappy. If it made you happy or didn't bother you you wouldn't be questioning his actions.

    Answer by lfl at 4:22 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • How about just saying, I bought these rings to affirm our vow and you seem less than enthused about them. Why is that? Then see what he says. Ask him why he isn't as excited as you are.

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 4:23 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • op here

    we planned on buying the rings since we seen them and early this last fall 09 we agreed we would buy the rings out of our income tax check. and really if there is nothing going on he should proudly wear those rings.  maybe i do have bigger issues =(  gawd this sucks


    Answer by Anonymous at 4:26 PM on Feb. 13, 2010

  • we went down togehter today and got them..


    Answer by Anonymous at 4:28 PM on Feb. 13, 2010