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husbands and porn??

does anyone feel like their husbands are not happy with them bc they are obsessed with porn?? i know it is just a guy think but mine went overboard! we are spending the night at a hotel for our honeymoon/valentines day. and he looked at porn and videos with a singer he is in love with (fergie) all day long. i did not wanna have sex with him bc i felt like he had to look at all that jus to get turned on or somethin. idk i am really upset and just wondering if i am just crazy? lol
oh and after i told him about it and had sex with him he got right back on the computer and started lookin at videos...

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 2:09 AM on Feb. 14, 2010 in Relationships

Answers (9)
  • That sounds a bit extreme to be a "regular guy" thing. Maybe he's addicted to it?
    Allergic2Stupid

    Answer by Allergic2Stupid at 2:17 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • Your Husband is lacking something in your relationship. Talk to him, and possibly think about getting him counseling for this addiction. It's not a healthy relationship!
    Hesmynavyman

    Answer by Hesmynavyman at 2:21 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • thats what im sayin!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:22 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • what could he be lacking? i mean we just had a baby so i didn't have sex with him there for a while and he didnt really act like this and then when i do have sex with him he does this!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:23 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • i dont know hun, maybe he is just stressed out or something. what did he say when you told him it upset you?
    MamaSusieQ045

    Answer by MamaSusieQ045 at 3:14 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • that he was sorry and he didn't mean to hurt me.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:30 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • If he is not addicted, then watch with him! You might find some new things you want to try. And if he is, then get him help, if he is willing to go.
    xtalleyx

    Answer by xtalleyx at 9:28 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • well...i have a rule. any porn, i get to pick out. it really made his jaw drop when i said that and sure as sh**, i picked one out and we watched it. it really strengthened our relationship in that asspect. instead of finding another reason to be upset with him, i found a reason to enjoy something with him. true, while watching it i'll make fun of the faces they make or how her boobs flop. i'll make popcorn. and i never pick a porn with something i can't deliver in it. and if the guy has a huge penis i will say how much i wouldn't like that... just to make him feel better. but then after that i could ween out the amount of time he spent on porn. now we just watch it when we are feeling goofy.

    it just worries me that on your honeymoon?! seriously?? was he hinting that you should watch it with him? i am sorry but if we went somewhere, I AM the only porn star like person he needs to see all day.
    spazlilsister

    Answer by spazlilsister at 10:17 AM on Feb. 14, 2010

  • You are not crazy and it sounds like your husband needs some help,because it seems as if the porn has become an addiction. Any time a man starts to need porn to get going, it's by no fault of your own, its part of an addiction that can get worse..
    CuteandCurvy

    Answer by CuteandCurvy at 12:23 PM on Feb. 14, 2010

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