This is to all in the adoption triad. It seems like kids of adoption usually wonder more about their birth/natural mothers, especially if they are hoping to reunite. I could be wrong about that, though, and would like to hear from adult adoptees as well.
Amoms, if you have contact with your child's bmom but not the bfather, at what age did your child begin to ask about him? My husband told me that he just talked with our 5 year old the other day for the first time about her birthfather. We have a lot of contact with her bmom and her family, but we've never met (or been able to locate) her bfather. We've mentioned her cultural heritage briefly, but she had never put it together that there was also a birthfather, and we weren't sure how/when to approach it since we don't know how to find him. She seemed to accept it as no big deal
Just wondering about others' experiences.
Answer by NovemberLove at 12:04 PM on Feb. 16, 2010
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Answer by frogdawg at 10:42 PM on Feb. 15, 2010
have initiated that conversation. Right now the extent to which my child knows how children come into this world is they are grown inside a woman's tummy and then they appear at the hospital. He hasn't asked how he got into his birthmom's stomach - yet. I'm sure that would definitely be a discussion on a birthfather. All I can say is right now that on that particular subject we just take it one day at a time.
Answer by frogdawg at 10:46 PM on Feb. 15, 2010
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