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Ok, so i got preg last year and we married in july we didnt stay married but about months and split up. He started seeing someone and so did i. Well now im living with this guy and things are difficult. Im scared to trust him for some reason. Not saying he has done anything but theres this feeling that i dont want to trust him or cnt trust him. And the ex husband is comn back in the pic bc he says he wants to be with me and work it out and start over. idk what to do. Life would be easier with the ex but then again i kinda like the challenge with the other.. Please help..

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Asked by sweet_krysti at 10:54 AM on Feb. 20, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Follow your heart and choose what' s best for your child as well.

    Answer by older at 11:02 AM on Feb. 20, 2010

  • IMO if you share a child and you truly love your ex then it's time to figure it out. Be on your own for a little while and date your ex. Then you will see if it's really right.. GL

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 11:02 AM on Feb. 20, 2010

  • I would try to work things with the ex since you have a child together, but if you already have a divorce, then I would just move out on your own with your child and get a fresh, clean start. You need to have a solid foundation right now. for you and your baby. Baby wil be grown before you know it, and all this time and attention is being wasted on men who seemed to be confused and not knowing what they want in life, why let them mess up yours and that of your baby?

    Answer by peace2010 at 11:03 AM on Feb. 20, 2010

  • If you don't fee like you can trust this person that is your intuition speaking to you and you should probably get away, but that doesn't mean that you need to go back to your ex either. You need to do what's best for you and your child.

    Answer by lowencope at 11:04 AM on Feb. 20, 2010

  • In my humble opinion - There have been red flags that you may be turning a blind eye too - This could explain your concern over Trusting this person. Our intuition is there for a reason, learning to listen to it can be invaluable.    Remember that you are making decisions for your Baby now (not just you alone)

    baby in sling

    Answer by at 11:08 AM on Feb. 20, 2010

  • I think you didn't take enough time to sort your feelings out before you jumped in another relationship. It maybe time to do that now. Maybe you need to live by yourself for awhile. I would give the ex a chance. A child is better w/ both his parents in the picture full time as long as there is no abuse. That doesn't mean you should get back together for the sake of the child. Either way there doesn't seem to be room in your life for the second guy.

    Answer by CorrinaWithrow at 11:08 AM on Feb. 20, 2010

  • get some practical advice from some good Christian resources, like Thh Purpose Driven Life. Destiny did bring you to marriage now take the good with the bad and hold on to Jesus is the safest bet.

    Answer by mommymadness30 at 2:38 PM on Feb. 20, 2010

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