OK, I'm trying again because I feel that I failed to communicate the SOLUTIONS in the above-mentioned link. I printed the first paragraph as an "attention grabber" but it didn't go over as I thought. This article is NOT meant to dissuade anyone from foster care or adopting thru foster care. It isn't meant to portray police or CPS in a negative light. Quite the opposite. It WAS meant to show both common behavioral issues and solutions to these issues when a foster child is taken into our care as foster parents. I'm sorry for the confusion and feel that this article WILL help those who are considering foster care or are having issues that need answers.
Thanks for your patience! :)
Answer by doodlebopfan at 11:37 AM on Feb. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:23 PM on Feb. 23, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 1:31 PM on Feb. 23, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 1:41 PM on Feb. 23, 2010
I would hope that people would read the article IN ITS ENTIRETY and be moved to be a part of a system that exists to protect children.
I can tell by your words, Anon, who you are. I know that you are an adoptive parent (or at least were close to finalization that last time we spoke.) Right now, you may not understand why I say the things that I do and honestly, I don't expect you to. We both have come to adoption from different ways.
This post is about helping foster parents find solutions to "behavioral problems" that they may experience when a child comes into their home by remembering what the child has experienced and what they may be feeling. This was all supposed to point to the child. Not cps, the child.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 2:00 PM on Feb. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 2:42 PM on Feb. 23, 2010
anon you personally attack and question the mental health of a woman that just gives her own opinion. NICE .She attacks no one.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:44 PM on Feb. 23, 2010
Anon 1:42pm-"Natural parents may or may not be a part of the problem..." Translation-Don't make assumptions or judgments. (I don't see anything about parents being victims.)
"most often natural parents care about their children" - Translation: MOST aren't as heartless as you think, regardless of the circumstances.
"Never try to replace a child’s natural family: Reassure the child that you are there to care for them, but have no intention of taking the place of their natural family ARE YOU FOLLOWING THIS ONE WITH YOUR CHILD?" Thanks for asking this. YES! While he was in foster care. Until his staying w/us was certain. Until adoption by us was the plan. YES!
Answer by doodlebopfan at 12:21 AM on Feb. 24, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 12:50 AM on Feb. 24, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 12:51 AM on Feb. 24, 2010