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How long did you wait to get your 1st foster child?

After completing all classes and home checks, how long did you wait to get your first foster child? Did you place restrictions on the "type" of child you wanted (ie, age and number)? If you're already a foster parent, do you always have a child in your home or are there lulls between placememnts? Oh, and what is the average length of time you have a child for?

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:11 AM on Feb. 24, 2010 in Adoption

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  • A lot of questions! Let's see...we had to wait about 3 weeks before getting our first call to foster after everything had been completed. We did have some restrictions (0-4 years only) and we were licensed for two children at a time. There have always been lulls in between children. Sometimes a day and then one time 6 months! To be honest, the average length of time we had each child was about 2 weeks.

    Answer by mommytoadam at 10:44 AM on Feb. 24, 2010

  • I actually had my first placement before everything was finalized. They were really hurting for foster parents at the time. The first few years I had children all the time with hardly any breaks in between. In the last few years things have slowed down to where we would have a month or more off between children and this past year we haven't had any. Part of that is because we asked them not to place anyone with us due to problems we were dealing with regarding our grandchildren. The other part is that they have just 50 children in foster homes right now which is fantastic! 8 yrs ago that had almost 150. The length of times would vary greatly from 1 day to almost 2 years. On the average I'd say 6 months??? We used to do children 1-13 but have had to say no one in diapers up to 13 due to having 2 in diapers currently & my babysitter (my mom) said no more diapers!

    Answer by baconbits at 1:01 PM on Feb. 24, 2010

  • We also did emergency respite care THE DAY AFTER our last PRIDE class. We were actually thinking of quitting, that maybe we couldn't do it (emotionally) and the next day we got a call for 4 little girls. *2 in cribs, 3 in diapers, and 4 hrs notice for 5 days! :) It sealed our fate. Even though we had them less than a week, our lives had been changed and we looked forward to our next placement. After we were licensed, we started getting calls immediately and had to put off some a couple of weeks due to pre-made vacation plans with grandparents. Once back, we started almost immediately. No breaks, no lulls. We had our 1st (2 days old) for 4 months. A few hours after she left, we got our 2nd (6 months old) and after 2 years finalized his adoption. Eleven days after the 2nd, we got a 3rd (almost 3 y/o) and kept her for 3 months. Other than that, we've done emergency & respite care a few times. We are foster/adopt.

    Answer by doodlebopfan at 6:09 PM on Feb. 24, 2010

  • We knew about our first placement the day before our license. We were handed our license and our first placement at the same time. With our second, they actually called to tell us they were picking up our first and they had another placement for us that needed to come to our home ASAP. Basically, the moment we say we are open, we have a placement. We are closed for placements for right now.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:12 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • con't from above. Our first placement we had for 5 days, or second has been adopted and is still with us. Our 3rd we had for 3 mo. For restrictions, we worked with an agency that was 0-2 yrs old, so no restrictions other than what the agency had.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:14 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • Great Question we just finished our classes and are waiting for them to schedule our Drug Testing, Background check and home Study. We're totally excited and can't wait for our 1st placement so we're asking the same types of questions as you are. We're asking for up to 2 Girls age 2-8 years olds with no major disabilities or illnesses (we don't feel equipped to handle that).

    Answer by anitrasmith at 3:59 PM on Mar. 2, 2010

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