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Finding birth parents...

I was wondering how to begin going about finding birth parents for someone who was adopted in 1969 in a secret, closed adoption. This is needed for my BIL. He is having medical issues, and it would be a big help if he knew his biological medical history.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 4:52 PM on Feb. 24, 2010 in Adoption

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  • familytree.com, but it will cost ya
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:53 PM on Feb. 24, 2010

  • See if you can get the records from the state where he was born.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:23 PM on Feb. 24, 2010

  • Place a notice in the area newspapers giving certain details (not all) about the adoption and why you are trying to find the birth parents. It may not work but it's always worth a shot. Many times people that aren't even related know details about an adoption even though parents try to hide them. It was a sad time for adoption because a child and bparents should all be able to easily search for their birth history but at the time it was all hidden.
    baconbits

    Answer by baconbits at 9:14 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • BIL, Needs to start with what he DOES know. Agency/facilitator/lawyer/church, whom processed the adoption, city/town he was born. Not always can the Birthdate be real, in the closed BSE days, many things were changed, including the month and day the child was born, sometimes even the town/city. However all of this along with baconbits advice would be a good place to start. Keep us posted, alos, there are what is known as 'search angels", "google" a search angel, by typing in the state he was born, and they most likely will be able to assist further...at no cost;) I send this with blessings,and prayers for BIL, it is sad and a shame, that this is what we put grown adults through....just to find their true origins, C.J.
    ceejay1

    Answer by ceejay1 at 12:04 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • Find out what info he is entitled to have disclosed to him, and have him apply for it.
    http://www.bastards.org/activism/access.htm

    here's a good article on how to search

    http://www.bastards.org/search/series.html

    and a state by state listing of search and support groups. Have him attend if it's possible. They can be much help, both with search and the emotions. Searching IS the easy part.
    State listings for support groups;
    http://www.adoptioncrossroads.org/whereg.shtml
    adopteeme

    Answer by adopteeme at 4:44 AM on Feb. 27, 2010

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