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Why aren't gay guys masculine like straight guys?

Yes I realize how stupid this question probably sounds. But I don't know any gay people. So why are gay guys mostly feminine? Whether you like guys or girls, arent they still GUYS? I realize there are feminine straight men, but not nearly on such a large scale. SO what's the deal? Is it an act? Do they have a biological testosterone deficiency or something?

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:16 AM on Feb. 25, 2010 in Just for Fun

Answers (12)
  • Some are very masculine just like some women are masculine and straight. It is a sterotype that gay men are only fem. I have met many men who if you only went with the sterotype you would never guess they were Gay.

    Answer by 3_ring_circus_ at 1:19 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • I answered your other question...but I will put a another version here...many gay men do not act feminine. I know 3 gay men from high school & if you didnt know they were gay, well you wouldnt know. I have also known feminine acting gay of my brother's friends. I never asked him why or anything. Anyway, yeah sometimes i think its an act. My brother is a cross dresser & when he's not dressed as woman, he is a very masculine man. He's a construction worker.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:21 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • It's just part of their personality. There is something different about them, and yes, I know a lot of gay men, and most of them are somewhat effemenate. Something about the gay part of their brains gives them a unique type of personality (that I actually find quite enjoyable lol). I do think that there is some chemical/hormonal explanation, but gay men don't have a general testosterone deficiency, it just effects them differently.

    Answer by Ati_13 at 1:27 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • Most of the gay guys I know are just regular guys who happen to be into other guys. Not campy stereotypes, or effeminate at all. There are some guys who work at a few places in my town that are pretty swishy, but I don't know them well enough to make assumptions about their personal lives. A few times I would have sworn some guys had to be, because they were such stereotypes, but whoops, they turned out to be straight.

    Answer by roachiesmom at 1:48 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • There are alot of "lipstick" gay guys out there. The reason you don't think so is because you automaticall assume all gay guys are fem.

    Answer by Imogine at 1:53 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • OP here, actually it's not an assumption. I am going on what I SEE...which is ONLY reality TV....but EVERY single show that has a gay guy on it, are feminine, SO...that is why I asked. Don't assume I am an asshole, just because I ask a question. It'd be nice to be able to ask something without people ASSUMING things...wouldn't it?

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:09 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • There are plenty on masculine gay men, you just don't notice them because they don't stand out like a fem guy.

    Answer by Blueliner at 2:42 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • My hubby is a cop, and just found out that one of his fellow cops was gay. NO ONE knew and he has worked there for YEARS.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:59 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • That's a stereotype and that's why you see it on TV. A gay guy who you can't pick out of a crowd does nothing for ratings.

    For as many feminine gay men I know, I know just as many who aren't.

    Answer by asaffell at 3:00 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • I know A LOT of gay men and there are actually only a couple who are effeminate, the rest are very masculine.


    Answer by pnwmom at 3:55 AM on Feb. 25, 2010

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