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What can I do at home to change my dd's behavior at school?

My 7 yr. old dd has to sit at a separate desk away from the rest of the class almost every day. She gets out of her chair to talk with friends before her work is done. Sometimes she has to go to the office for being too disruptive and not listening to the teacher. I have tried grounding her from toys, tv, computer, and grounding her to her room for these incidents. My dh and I have lectured her about respect and her behavior. We have tried to ask her what she did wrong and asked what she should have done differently. She always knows what she did was wrong before she made the choice, but it seems whatever I do, she doesn't seem to care. What else can I do to get her to change her attitude/behavior?


Asked by Anonymous at 5:50 PM on Feb. 25, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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Answers (13)
  • The previous answer would be good advice if it weren't so snotty. The truth is only a small percentage of parents are aware of the options available through the school district. Now that she has asked this question here she knows there are options to look into.

    OP talk with the teacher everyday to see what she is doing, talk with the administration to get testing and evaluations done. They don't want to do this and will make you feel like the worst parent ever but it is your right as a parent to seek this for your child. Make sure what you do at home is consistent with what they are doing at school. Also it would be a good idea to talk with her pediatrician. Look for diet or behavior triggers. Is it worse at certain times of the day or during certain subjects?


    Answer by Anonymous at 6:17 AM on Feb. 26, 2010

  • Threaten to home school her and she won't even be able to visit at recess.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:51 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • how does she do in school? I used to act out because I didn't know the work and this was a way of an excuse somehow in my mind.. I found out at 30 that I have Adhd and comprehnsion issues.. totally not saying that is what is going, just my story

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 5:52 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • op..academically she does well, behavior is the only problem.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:54 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • Maybe take a day and sit behind her in school. I had to go to school once but my daughter was alot older so I don't think the effect will be the same. My daughter was embarrassed. The other idea is to make her sit at home facing the wall or in another room. Tell her if she can't sit in class, she will sit at home. A third idea is to have the teacher keep her after school if and sit alone if you think that will be effective.

    Answer by CorrinaWithrow at 5:55 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • A good ol' fashion spanking? I NEVER misbehaved at school because I knew if I did, my parents would whoop my ass when I got home.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:58 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • My daughter was academically advanced and had behavior issues in elementary school. As time went on it became obvious that nothing we or her teachers tried was helping, and eventually she also fell behind. In later grades she had a hard time getting her work done and turned in. We were convinced we just hadn't found the right discipline technique. Last year at age 12 we finally decided to do ADHD testing, and within a very short time of starting medication she was a completely different kid. We also took a Love & Logic parenting class and found that very helpful. GL!


    Answer by Anonymous at 6:06 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • Do you notice this impulsive behavior only at school or other places as well?

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:43 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • did this just start this year or has it been on going? I wonder if there is not more to it...?

    Answer by But_Mommie at 7:46 PM on Feb. 25, 2010

  • what is the teacher doing besides sep. desk for the issues???/
    Is there immed. feedback? Is she getting all neg. attention or praise when she is doing right? You can follow thru at home but there are steps the teacher should be doing in class.
    Has this been an on-going issue through out her schooling career???

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:45 PM on Feb. 25, 2010