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How can DH make BM understand that her constant fighting with her boyfriend is affecting the child?

My husband has custody and BM has weekend visitation. SS no longer wants to go to BMs. He says he doesn't feel safe there because they always fight and he is scared that they don't love each other anymore and he is scared that they will not live together anymore. BM told him once that she and Daddy split up because they fought all the time and didn't love each other anymore. Sometimes they fight about him, he says and that makes it really hard. And a lot of the time, they fight about DH he says. They say mean things about each other and he hears it. DH has told her all of it before, but she said they never fight and that there is nothing going on. Then the boyfriend called and said that they fight constantly but that he tries to avoid them while SS is there. This has been going on for a long time and we are at a loss. What do we do to get her to understand.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:33 AM on Feb. 26, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • i couldnt help but say bowl movement in my head everytime i read BM hahaha.... sorry
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:39 AM on Feb. 26, 2010

  • Tell her what bf said and tell her to make it stop or dad will take her to court and get supervised visits only
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:01 AM on Feb. 26, 2010

  • Honestly...you can't control another household. All you can really do is stay postive and model a good relationship for the child in your home. If the child is too afraid to go over there, then explain that to mom. Maybe she will understand that there needs to be a break from the child visiting the home so that she can handle her situation.As long as the child is not in any direct harm and no abuse is happening to the child...I don't think there is much else you can do.
    Good Luck..I know its a tough situation but unfortunatley it sometimes comes along with divorced families.
    kimberlyinberea

    Answer by kimberlyinberea at 11:09 AM on Feb. 26, 2010

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