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How can I teach her not to act up?

I have a two year old and when we go out with my family she acts up. She does this because she has a cousin that is a little older that doesn't listen therefore my daughter thinks its ok. She only acts up in public when he is around how can I teach her that just because he does it doen't mean that she can

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:12 PM on Feb. 27, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • she isn't going to understand that concept. She's just copying her buddy and pretty much all kids try to get away with more when they're around other family. Just stay firm with her and treat her the way you would if she did that at home. If she can't handle it, give her something calm to do like coloring. Its not going to be perfect, but she'll understand the idea that some kids do things you can't as she gets older.

    Answer by mrs_pulley at 12:15 PM on Feb. 27, 2010

  • Keep talking to her about how she can not do that even if someone else it. Also when she does do it make sure you discipline her for it. Good luck. It is so hard for them to understand when they see others do it. but keep telling her and disciplining her and it will get threw to her.


    Answer by Anonymous at 12:17 PM on Feb. 27, 2010

  • You just need to stick to your guns. When you tell her to do something. You have to make her listen to right away. It may take a few time out but once she sees you aren't budging from your rules she'll settle down.

    Answer by bugandsmiles at 12:17 PM on Feb. 27, 2010

  • Be consistent. Whatever you decide her consequence is going to be for acting it every time. She'll eventually get the picture that she can't do that without something bad happening, and she'll stop.

    Answer by DragonRiderMD at 12:28 PM on Feb. 27, 2010

  • First you have to teach yourself how not to act up, that is you have to learn effective parenting skills. Punishment does not teach good behavior and creates little monsters. When you punish kids they learn to lie, sneak, hit, act out, and resent their parents. They won't cooperate. Punishment includes time'outs, taking things away, pops, hitting, ect.

    There are many things you can do to empower your toddler so she wants to behave and she wants to please you. You can learn from classes, books, websites, conferences, and other resources. A good first book is Love & Limits by Elizabeth Crary. She has a website called Star Parenting.

    You can build a group of thing you use like "first, then". First we put away the toys, then we go to the park. Another is "give small choices". Would you like to wear the blue shoes or the red. Would you like to put them on or would you like me to put them on. You empower the child.


    Answer by Gailll at 12:35 PM on Feb. 27, 2010

  • They learn what they live/by example. Keep her away from the one that acts up and she'll be fine

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:51 PM on Feb. 27, 2010

  • Anon 11:51 That is the worst way to teach a child anything. A child learns to behave by being taught how to behave. Taking them away from a child who acts up doesn't teach them not to act up. That only eliminates the sight of the other child. Talk to your child and let her know that though his behaviour goes unpunished that hers will not. She has consequences to everything she does, and that she will be punished if she misbehaves. Children are bright, more then they're given credit for. Just sit her down and let her know before you go out what is expected of her. If she acts out anyway, then give her one warning that you will go home and she will get a time out if she continues. If she does, then without hesitation take her home and put her in time out. Children get away with what you let them get away with. If you don't want her acting out then stop the behaviour.

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 3:03 PM on Feb. 27, 2010

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