First off he can't be on the birth cert if he isn't at the hospital when she's born. He will have to sign a declaration of paternity because you aren't married. And why in the hell wouldn't you! It holds him accountable. If he ever gets his life together your child will get nothing from him! That's not fair. Also, if you are worried about him seeing her, well, not to be mean but you picked him not her, so it's her right to know him if she chooses. But if he's a true deadbeat, he probably won't come around even if he's on the birth cert. That's what mine did anyway.
at 9:51 AM on Feb. 28, 2010