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What are the pros and cons of putting a deadbeat dad on the birth certificate?

I am due in May but I have heard from a mix of people to add and not to add him to my daughter's birth cerificate. what are the perks and negatives of claiming and not claiming him?


Asked by blaquesoulstar at 8:24 AM on Feb. 28, 2010 in About CafeMom

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  • No man has to be present at the hospital during the birth in order for a woman to claim him as the father on a birth certificate. Women claim men all the time as the father and some of them never even know it. A mother can fill in the blanks with whatever information she wants. If the man objects, then he needs to demand a paternity test. That said, claim the SOB as the father and the court will order him to pay child support. If he doesn't - call the sheriff and have him picked up on "contempt of court". Doesn't really matter if he's sitting in jail - he isn't paying one way or the other.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:40 AM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • First off he can't be on the birth cert if he isn't at the hospital when she's born. He will have to sign a declaration of paternity because you aren't married. And why in the hell wouldn't you! It holds him accountable. If he ever gets his life together your child will get nothing from him! That's not fair. Also, if you are worried about him seeing her, well, not to be mean but you picked him not her, so it's her right to know him if she chooses. But if he's a true deadbeat, he probably won't come around even if he's on the birth cert. That's what mine did anyway.

    Answer by Steff107 at 9:51 AM on Feb. 28, 2010