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help with newborn

hi i had my son on the 9th he is my 1st one it is very stressful at times i get mad upset anoyed all those do i deal with the crying and can not figure out what is wroung half the time n i did it all diper change feed pacifier rocked him sing to him talk to him.any one have ideas to help him sleep our to figure out what is wrong and how did u cope with the crying n screeming hope i make sence here ty

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Asked by Anonymous at 5:32 PM on Feb. 28, 2010 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • do u have family or friends who can help?

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:34 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • clean, dry, warm, fed, repeat

    babies cry, it happens. dont let that bug you

    Answer by staciandababy at 5:34 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • i have family but thy work to much to help i have a husband he works a lot but i am glad when he comes home i can get a brake

    Answer by joannabenjamin at 5:41 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • its stressful and frustating but thats how it is after giving birth. thats motherhood. just be patient. he is just an infant. the older they get the less they cry.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:47 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • have you tried a swaddle? The ONLY way my daughter would sleep was in a swaddle. You gotta figure, they spent 9 months all tight and bundled and comfy and warm in the womb, so now that they are out sometimes the freeness of having their arms and legs go all over the place can be very stressful for them!! I would definitely give that a shot.
    Also a baby can feed off your energy. If you are super stressed the baby can sense that and it may actually make him more upset. If you feel yourself getting worked out, put the baby down, and take a breather for a few minutes. Two minutes of crying wont do any harm. You are better off getting yourself centered and collected and then come back and try again!! being a mom can be a very difficult thing to adjust o but I promise you will get it!! You are already doing a great job!! good luck!!

    Answer by Amanduhpanda at 5:52 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • Having a baby changes everything.

    This may go on for months. Babies cry less if you carry them in a sling.

    You need to learn ways to deal now that you are a mother. You may need to go to counseling to get help. Meditation helps me.

    Answer by Gailll at 5:54 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • sometimes when you have already done everything that you need to do, the baby wants to just be left alone. put the baby in his crib, and leave him there. go to another room. just like you want to be left alone sometimes, babies do too. good luck.

    Answer by mrsjosey1018200 at 6:09 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • Babies cry. Nurse more frequently; it is for comfort (for both of you) as well as nutrition.

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:35 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • It takes a few weeks for your hormones to level out.
    If you are breastfeeding, co-sleeping can help you both get sleep; I put a nursing nest between myself and a Safety First bed rail.
    Also, most baby's like to be swaddled and will calm down after a few minutes of being swaddled; the "Swaddle Me" blanket is a bit pricey, but worth it if you cannot swaddle tightly.
    One more thing, a sling (hotsling is a good one) or Moby Wrap can also be helpful as well.

    Answer by happytexasCM at 6:40 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • Swaddle , put on a side bounce on your knee and shush loudly that works with almost all babies, look into Harvey Karp his methods with newborns for this work wonders with fussy babies. Good luck

    Answer by truealaskanmom at 7:35 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

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