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how can i get my 2 year old to quit having temper tantrums?

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Asked by Anonymous at 7:11 PM on Feb. 28, 2010 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Ignore them. No lectures after. No punishments. When a child doesn't get anything from tantrums they decrease.

    Love & Limits is a great little toddler parenting book. It's by Elizabeth Crary. She has a website called Star Parenting.

    Answer by Gailll at 7:14 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • This is TYPICAL of 2-3 year's why this age is referred to as the "terrible twos!" Be fair and consistent with your rules, TRY and explain why you have the rules you have, and establish clear boundaries and compromises that YOU can live with. Don't try to "reason" with a two year old, just try to state the reasons why in simple words/phrases she is familiar with and can understand. This is a good age to start Time Outs for bad behavior, and losing of privileges or favorite toys/dolls, until the behavior improves.

    Answer by LoriKeet at 7:15 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • I ignore the loud screaming fits and make my child go throw the fit in his/her room.

    temper tantrums that include throwing or hitting - those get a few minutes in the corner and then the rest of the tantrum can be carried out in the room.

    CONSISTENCY and NOT caving and doing what they want are the keys!

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:17 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • ignore them. all tantrums are for is an audience. put him in time out, tell him when he's done he can get out. then ignore him. or put him in his room until he's done. then calmly tell him you know why he had the tantrum (normally it's cuz he didn't get his way or get something he wanted) and explain to him why he couldn't [whatever]

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:20 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • Ignore it all together, pretend they aren't even there, that is the fastest way.

    Answer by truealaskanmom at 7:23 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • sorry, i was anon 6:20...didn't mean to put anon. anyway, you can help keep the tantrums minimum by giving 2 choices. for example: you're going to a place where he can only play with one toy, but he wants to play with all of them. instead of just grabbing one and giving it to him, making him mad/upset, get 2 toys, and let him pick 1 out of the 2 ONLY.

    Answer by armywife43 at 7:27 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

  • It's unrealistic to think that a child with big emotions and little vocabulary would naturally be compliant 100% of the time. Tantrums are normal for toddlers. Try to help him pin names to his emotions. Like, you are mad that you... or you are sad, or you are happy, etc. As they increase in the ability to communicate what they are feeling and why, the tantrums will decrease, but I wouldn't expect it to happen before 4-5 yrs old. SO....the best you can do is try to TEACH him how to be calm, PRAISE him for calming down after a tantrum and be patient & consistent. Just remember that this is a phase and this time next year, it'll be a whole new deal. Good luck! :)

    Answer by doodlebopfan at 8:53 PM on Feb. 28, 2010

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