I am a married woman who is considering adoption. We do love this baby, who is a girl, due in April, but we, having 2 kids already, are severely struggling. My husband only works a minimum wage job to support us. we live in a tiny apt, and honestly, I do not think another child is best. We thought our financial situation from last year would have gotten better by now, but it hasn't and only seems to get worse. What is the best way to explore adoption this late in pregnancy?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:48 PM on Feb. 28, 2010 in Adoption
Answer by adopteeme at 2:24 AM on Mar. 1, 2010
Answer by mcginnisc at 8:02 AM on Mar. 1, 2010
Answer by mcginnisc at 8:09 AM on Mar. 1, 2010
Of course you love this child! She is your child. I don't think anyone could ever question that you love your children. It sounds like you and your husband are in a difficult place right now and you are both scared about what the future will look like. I have known couples who have successfully placed their infant with an adoptive family and it has worked well for them. I have known couples who regret not having placed their child for adoption several years later and wishing it wasn't too late. I have also known women who wished they had not placed because they felt pressured by a husband or other family to do so. All I can say is you is you have to make some big decisions. Please don't take offense: but if your husband is controlling or abusive in any way, you may want to go to a domestic violence shelter and get assistance and counseling there before you decide to place your child.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:05 AM on Mar. 1, 2010
I only say that because I saw quite a bit of that in the past. If you have a good strong marriage and a supportive husband then it is a decision to make together. Of course women realize that this a big decision and of course as a mother you realize your older children are impacted as well. There is nothing easy about adoption. Not placing, not being the adoptive parents, and not easy for the adoptee. I say this as a mother through adoption. My husband and I adopted our son and he is healthy, happy, and very secure. But - there will be issues surrounding adoption all his life. How I respond to him is very important. Finding a perspective adoptive family that is very knowledgable and responsive to their future child's needs - I'm not sure that is so easy to come by. I wouldn't know how to begin to choose if I were to be picking parents for my child.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:13 AM on Mar. 1, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 1:08 PM on Mar. 1, 2010
I must say try to keep your baby this situation is only temporary, and really think about your situation. There are a ton of adoption agencies that would be willing to help you find the right family, but you should also chech with your local Wic office and see about getting on public assistance first.
Answer by MiddletonFamily at 5:30 PM on Mar. 1, 2010
Answer by maggiemom2000 at 7:05 PM on Mar. 1, 2010
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