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Baby shower for a 15 yr old?

One of my friends that I have known since HS has a 15 yr old daughter that is pregnant. Due in May. They just "discovered" she was pregnant about 2 weeks ago. The father is a 16 yr old HS drop out. My friend had let him stay there all the time (all night in daughter's room), so I dont know why mom is surprised the girl is pregnant! I got an invite to a baby shower the other day! Would you really have a baby shower for your preg. 15 yr old? I mean, yeah they need stuff for the baby BUT I have already given her a crib, maternity clothes, baby clothes, bottles, toys, pack n play...& I am not the only one who has given them things! What are some thoughts on having a baby shower for a 15 year old?

 
Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:09 PM on Mar. 1, 2010 in General Parenting

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Answers (79)
  • I dont think anyone "deserves" anything..its not a "right" to have a shower because your pregnant. If she already has the basic needs for the child given to her, then why does she need a party?



    i agree with u anon.i wouldnt go regardless if i gave her any gifts or not. i would feel weird going to a baby shower for a teen (as in 17 or younger). if it was my dd she would not be having a baby shower. im sorry there is nothing to celebrate about a kid having a kid.
    3xangel

    Answer by 3xangel at 3:50 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • I was pregnant when I was 15.

    IMO, they should not be treated any differently than a "grown woman", in regards to baby needs.
    ObbyDobbie

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 3:12 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • I personally don't like to see 15 year olds having a baby shower with all their friends from school. Family and close friends yes.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • regardless of her age she is still pregnant and deserves a baby shower... Well obviously she is too young to have a baby but theres not much that can be done about that now.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • I dont think anyone "deserves" anything..its not a "right" to have a shower because your pregnant. If she already has the basic needs for the child given to her, then why does she need a party?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:14 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • her age has nothing to do with whether or not she can have a baby shower. She is still going to be a mom and has mommy/baby needs too. I think she deserves a shower regardless of her age
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:14 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • Well im sure some of the "older" moms have had all of the basics given to them as well and they still had baby showers, so why cant she??
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:16 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • Any child is a blessing and there arrival deserves to be celebrated. Its not the babys fault that theyre coming
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:17 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • I would invite family but not friends from school. I don't really see it as appropriate to invite kid's who shouldn't be getting pregnant to Baby shower for one their peers.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:17 PM on Mar. 1, 2010

  • My first instinct is no way, but then I think about what a hard life this girl has in front of her. I think a shower would be awkward, but I also think the girl is facing incredible consequences for her actions and it's maybe not right to automatically say no shower for you. I don't think I'd be ready for my 15 year old to have a baby shower soon after discovering she was pregnant, but I hope at some point I would come to terms with it and be supportive to her and my grandchild. I truly hope I never have to face this situation an find out. It seems like there is no right answer.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:17 PM on Mar. 1, 2010