We've had that argument a time or two. And when we weren't arguing, we decided that instead of playing that mean and immature game, we would let the other one know when they were being mean. We found out that it wasn't what we were saying as much as how we were saying it. And the other person got their feelings when they felt they did nothing wrong. So now if I snap at my husband (or vice versa), he tells me politely to watch my tone, I take a second to rethink what I said, and the conversation starts over without hurting anyone's feelings.
at 9:17 AM on Mar. 4, 2010