This is to update and hopefully get some postive support for my situation. So I am in my 2nd trimester( 3 months) now and still haven't heard from " sperm donor". He did get married and is leaving USA ( he is in USAF)in about a month to be with his wife. I heard this from people that the wife also doesn't know about his cheating. ( he got me pregnant when he was engaged). Okay I know I am just hurting myself by doing this-but I look at thier profile on myspace. Both of them blog and thier excitment in hopefully becoming parents together. They are desperate to have a baby asap. I am sad becasue I still do care for the jerk and the fact that he doesnt want anything to do with our unborn child is devastating. I am already having a difficult pregnancy physically and the emotional part is tiredsome and draining. It's takinga toll on my quality of life right now. Any words of encouragement would be nice or heck even negative.
Asked by Anonymous at 6:53 AM on Mar. 6, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by lisa_ann_p at 10:06 AM on Mar. 6, 2010
Answer by louise2 at 7:01 AM on Mar. 6, 2010
I'm sorry to say that these are the occupational hazards of being the other woman. Like the pp said, you are better off without him because chances are he would have cheated on you too.
Answer by beeky at 7:52 AM on Mar. 6, 2010
Answer by sailorwifenmom at 8:29 AM on Mar. 6, 2010
Get a DNA test when the baby is born. There is NO guarantee that the child will be qualified for Tricare (med insurance) when we added my stepson to DEERS they required my husband to have at least 50% custody of SS or hubby had to be married to the mother before they would add him. We had to show court papers, his BC and his social security card. (This may have changed in three years) But, you will be entitled to child support that the military will be sure you get. The military will also assist him in getting visitation with his child and it won't be supervised either, wherever he is. Anyways, just thought I would throw my experience with DEERS and Tricare in there. I would also have it put in the court papers that your child is entitled to some percentage of his/her father's life insurance should he die. Good luck!
Answer by matthewscandi at 11:06 AM on Mar. 6, 2010
Answer by admckenzie at 11:06 AM on Mar. 6, 2010
Um, before you go announcing your pregnancy to the new bride, you might want to consider the possibility that they will sue you for full custody. Just food for thought, you know the players better than we do.
Answer by beeky at 3:45 PM on Mar. 6, 2010
Answer by rio_burb at 12:38 PM on Mar. 8, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on Mar. 11, 2010