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how do you get a three month old baby out of being spoiled, she cries if your not holding her all the time.

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Asked by kinsley_08 at 2:43 PM on Jun. 26, 2008 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • A three month old child CANNOT be spoiled. She is crying because she wants to be close to you and she needs to feel nurtured and protected, that would be happening whether you held her all the time or not. I repeat, children at that age simply can't be spoiled.

    Answer by MamaPyratekk at 2:53 PM on Jun. 26, 2008

  • Three month olds are SUPPOSED TO CRY!! She cannot be Spoiled, end of story. She needs you, she has been carried around inside your body for the first 9 months of her life. HOld her, love her, carry her. Buy a sling so you can have your hands free and give her all the love and attention she needs. Check out the CIO alternatives group, or any other AP group. I proimise, she is being a baby, that is what they do!!

    Answer by sapient at 3:17 PM on Jun. 26, 2008

  • I know what you mean but little babies love to be close to a parent you could try putting her where she can see you sitting in a boppy pillow or bumbo chair or bouncer...and that way her eyes can follow you around the room so she dosen't feel like she was left alone also when she's sitting in her bouncer [etc] talk to her as you go about your routine it'll probably calm her to hear and see you, but just when you need a break still try to hold her and cuddle her often.

    Answer by Tayleina at 3:55 PM on Jun. 26, 2008

  • If you need the use of your arms back, here's some ideas:

    Get a front carrier or a sling. That keeps her close to you but lets you have some freedom.

    Put her in a bouncy seat and sit in front of her. Start with putting her down for 1 minute. Talk to her the whole time but don't touch her. When the minute is up, pick her up and cuddle her. Slowly stretch the time up to 5 minutes. Then do some other task while she is in the seat but keep talking to her. Again, slowly stretch the time. This will take WEEKS, not days. As she gets used to not being held all the time, she will also be getting older.

    As she gains head control, you can start using a playmat or playpen instead of the bouncy seat. By the time she is 6 months, she may be willing to be in the playpen for longer periods - maybe even half an hour.

    Remember that babies learn by watching us. Someone has to play WITH her so she can learn all the things she needs to learn.

    Answer by kaycee14 at 3:58 PM on Jun. 26, 2008

  • She's not spoiled, she's a baby. Babies want to be held.

    Answer by PhilsBabyMama at 4:56 PM on Jun. 26, 2008

  • Mom,you need to educate yourself about good,involved parenting.You WANT to raise a healthy,happy child who feels she is loved AND UNDERSTOOD. That means educating yourself - develop good parenting skills by watching parents around you who are in tune to their children. Read well-written books and find moms who model caring parenting.

    If you don't have friends who are sensitive to their children and aware of normal age-and -stage child development,join a family resource center or parenting group. If you are breastfeeding,I found the La Leche League meetings gave me a VERY great sense of support. Just one example. Ask your health nurse or MD about local groups.

    If you have good skills, you will be MUCH better equipped to handle the normal frustrations that come with being a parent;you'll be more likely to discipline rather than punish;teach her HOW to think rather than WHAT to think,etc.

    All the best,mum! "Kids are worth it!" :)

    Answer by ShapeofMyHeart at 8:25 AM on Jun. 27, 2008

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