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What rights should the father have if his unmarried girlfriend wants an abortion?

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rochellecole

Asked by rochellecole at 6:18 PM on Mar. 9, 2010 in Pregnancy

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  • None, He has the right to wear a condom.
    SleepingBeautee

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 6:19 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • It depends on the state. Some states say a man can stop a woman from having an abortion. He'd have to contact a Father's Rights organization and see what he can do, if anything
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 6:22 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • NONE.
    When medical advances make it possible for him to birth a child, THEN ha can have some rights.
    ObbyDobbie

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 6:22 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • wow that's awful...it's just as much his baby as it is hers, just because she gives birth to it doesn't make it solely hers. it takes two ppl to make a baby...it takes 2 ppl to decide to have and raise that baby and if the father doesn't want his innocent child murdered he should have a say
    aliishott2

    Answer by aliishott2 at 6:26 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • If he wanted a say, he should have planned a pregnancy with someone who wanted to have kids. Or he should have worn a condom and not knocked up his girlfriend, that didn't want a baby.
    SleepingBeautee

    Answer by SleepingBeautee at 6:29 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • Thi is not going to be a popular answer and I am pro-choice. I think if a father wants the child and the mother doesnt then there should be an option for the mother to sign away her rights to him during the pregnancy. In reality the men who would actually do this would be few and far between.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:30 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • what about the girlfriend who should have used protection as well...i'm sure that would be the situation where neither of them planned it...but they both made it...they both should have a say...it's a human life
    aliishott2

    Answer by aliishott2 at 6:32 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • >>>>>If he wanted a say, he should have planned a pregnancy with someone who wanted to have kids. Or he should have worn a condom and not knocked up his girlfriend, that didn't want a baby.



    yes thats true and some would say she is just as much responsible, babies happen and both parties had a option to prevent it. These things happen and when the man walks away he is a dirt bag who should have to pay for that child but when he wants to be a full time father and take responsibility we say he should have not gotten her pregnant. Seems a bit odd how screwed up that is dont you think?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:34 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • Right up there with pregnant women in concentration camps being tied down and having their legs bound together while they labored... Wow. Hitler Much?
    ObbyDobbie

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 6:35 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • Anon :30, ideally, this would be an option. However, it is still the female who has to go through pregnancy, and who's to say the male wouldn't change his mind somewhere along the way, leaving her with a baby she never wanted? Not to mention, signing over your rights is not as easy as you seem to think... Some states won't let you sign over parental rights at all, period. In some states, even if they let you, you're still on the hook for child support.

    Ultimately, I think in this case, it's the woman's body, the woman's choice. It sucks for those men who really do want to step up to the plate, but I don't see any other solution. And as some of the other posters have mentioned, the guy should either plan a pregnancy with somebody who WANTS a baby, or be more careful about birth control....
    Anouck

    Answer by Anouck at 6:36 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

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