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how to deal with fibbing -

how do you deal with fibbing? it wasn't so bad at first and was just pretty much ignored- now she's starting to fib about people hurting her. She's told her aunt about 3 times that a kid she knows 'stepped on her head' different kid each time according to the story. It didn't actually happen.

Now she'll do things like go into a store and say 'daddy, you hurt me!' we were all together the whole time. I'd ask her about it, she'd say one thing. then later when asked about certain details she'd say she forgot.

or do something she knows she's not supposed to and then say another adult gave her permission.

any ideas?


Asked by Anonymous at 6:55 PM on Mar. 9, 2010 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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Answers (5)
  • She may simply have a creative mind. Don't stifle that part of her but explain to her the importance of being truthful. As for permission from others, tell her they need to give her a note! So when she does something and says someone gave her permission ask her "Where is your note?"

    Answer by admckenzie at 7:16 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • First stop call it fibbing. Call it by it's real name"lieing" have you sat her down and explaned to her why it is not good to say false things about people?

    Answer by louise2 at 6:59 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • op- liking the note idea!

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:32 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • Yep its not fibbing, its a lie. And if you don't stop it now it will get worse. What I'd do is have a very long talk about a persons word and loosing peoples trust because of telling lies. Tell her you never want her to tell a lie again. The next time she lies punish her with whatever method you use.

    Answer by SalemWitchChild at 7:34 PM on Mar. 9, 2010

  • I agree. Stop calling it fibbing. That makes it sound cute like "telling stories". The fact is, she is lying and needs to be told that it's wrong. Give her an example using HER as the one who did the hurting. Something like "how would you feel if I told your teacher that you kicked (insert friend's name here) and you got in trouble for it?" You also need to explain that if she keeps LYING people won't believe her when something really is wrong. Then, if she continues lying she gets punished however you punish in your home.

    Answer by indymom22 at 8:28 PM on Mar. 9, 2010