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How many of you have a bf/husband that loves to spend time playing video games. My bf loves to play C.O.D (call of duty) and i can not stand it. He can spend all day on that damn game. I so badly just want to break it sometimes, I do everything, take care of our son, clean, cook, and do laundry. He barely does anything. Is there anyone that can relate what can i or should i do.

(Don't get me wrong he is a good guy and loves me and his son, i just think he still has some growing up to do.)

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ilybaby8609

Asked by ilybaby8609 at 2:57 AM on Mar. 11, 2010 in Relationships

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  • My husband loves his games! He works hard and it is his way to relax. Have you tried asking your husband for help with the house and baby? If he refuses stop doing his laundry and let him prepare his own meals.
    Lexylex

    Answer by Lexylex at 7:40 AM on Mar. 11, 2010

  • My hubby and I both game...it wasn't always that way though. He used to play socom ALL the time...so I went to my cousin's and had him teach me how to play. It was actually really fun...so now we both play and each have our own system. BUT my hubby knows I won't allow him to sit there and game while I do everything...if a subtle hint doesn't work, I pull out the laundry, drop it in his lap and demand some help.
    My parents don't agree with us gaming...they think its silly kids stuff ... but if you sit and try it you will see there is more to it than just the game itself...you can make some real friends on there just like on here. We play on the PS3 and you have an email system, voice chat, video chat, dvd players...it's a community of sorts...not much different than this, but more advanced games.
    So my suggestion...get more involved ...snuggle with him...ask him to teach you...you might just enjoy it !
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:01 AM on Mar. 11, 2010

  • LOL! I'm the jerk who plays video games all day. I was a video game junkie growing up in the 80's & 90's, & it never went away. I'm still addicted to them! DH does not mind though. He knows it's my "escape". As long as i keep up with my duties & do them well, he does not care how much i play. Anyway's I'm mindful about it. I know when enough is enough.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 9:05 AM on Mar. 11, 2010

  • Maybe sit down & ask him of you can come up with a certain plan, or schedule for him to play. Like, he can only play if he spends this much time with his son & after he has helped out with some other things you might need help with. I will only allow myself to play video games AFTER my duties have been done. Sometimes i fly through my daily duties, just so i can hit the video games while DD is at school. If feels good to give myself that ultimatum, because it actually helps me get more stuff done & i get a reward to play video games when i am finished.
    samurai_chica

    Answer by samurai_chica at 9:09 AM on Mar. 11, 2010

  • Yep, my hubs is a computer gamer!!!! But ever since I have known him (21yr now) he has been very much into his computer. At first it really bothered me, and I talked to him and he made an effort to cut back. Now I take it in stride, when he is on his computer then I just do my own thing-- like read, or get on CM- lol. One thing that helps is we make it a point to have 'us' time each day-- wether it be 20min when he gets home from work, or at bedtime. We make sure and touch base with each other and go over the days happenings, or talk about the kids. We also have date night-- where the 2 of us go out (usually to supper) and we talk.
    As for his gaming and being a dad--- he puts the kids ahead of his gaming, and will spend time with them. My older 2 boys are into the computer so sometimes they play games with dad. The little one likes to sit and watch when they are all playing.
    MizLee

    Answer by MizLee at 9:38 AM on Mar. 11, 2010

  • My husband loves games and I love the computer. When it gets too obsessive, one of us will say something to the other. Then we tone it down. I'd never take his games from him and won't allow him to take my vices from me. Just has to be in moderation!
    bjane01

    Answer by bjane01 at 11:27 AM on Mar. 11, 2010

  • My BF loves to play COD:MW2. Every weekend the kids are at their fathers we end up at his friends house just so they can play together (There are 3 XBOX 360s over there). I would just sit there and watch and get bored really quick and it would start fights. But mainly because he was having an addiction over this game. I finally told him to teach me how to play it and we sat there and played co-op together. I had tons of fun and helped him get all 3 stars when the other people he tried playing it with couldn't get anything done. I now have the 360 and play when I can so I can learn the controls. I love it and its something we can do together when we have the time to.
    NikLvsNick

    Answer by NikLvsNick at 10:32 PM on Mar. 11, 2010

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