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My son is a very bright 16 year old. Last night, he told me that he believes that he is agnostic, and doesn't not feel that he believes in God. He has been raised in a Christian household. I feel that we have failed somehow in raising him. He is a wonderful kid, and I know this shouldn't change what I think of him, but I just feel so sad about it. Has anyone else ever had a child do this? We had a long discussion last night and will have many more in the future, I'm sure :) I am not sure what to do. I feel like I have lost him and failed him in life. Any answers will be appreciated. Thanks.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:19 AM on Mar. 11, 2010 in Religion & Beliefs
Answer by Zakysmommy at 9:21 AM on Mar. 11, 2010
You need the book The Power of a Praying Parent.
Find out why he lost his faith or maybe he never had faith. Did he once believe and stopped for a reason or has he not accepted Jesus yet? Was he ever baptized?
Maybe something at school has caused his to rely on logic and caused him to question God?
I wish you the best and will pray for your son.
Answer by ThrivingMom at 9:25 AM on Mar. 11, 2010
Seems like a smart kid, not because he is agnostic, but because he is seriously pondering this god thing. Many people choose to blindly follow, & others choose to think about it & make a decision that seems rational to them. He may change his mind in the future, but the fact that he is not blindly following his parents is a sign of being able to think for himself, & be independent in his own thought. Don't worry too much. Set a good example & don't force anything on him. Forcing kids into a religion usually backfires.
Be glad you have a smart son who is thiking deeply about the issue. Lots of kids don't even have the ability to think so deeply. Also, he is right to believe in whatever he wants to.
Answer by samurai_chica at 9:27 AM on Mar. 11, 2010
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Answer by older at 9:56 AM on Mar. 11, 2010
First of all, one of the most important things we can teach our children is not what to think but how to think. It sounds to me like you were successful. Combine that with rebellious adolescence and you have a recipe for "losing faith". It sounds like you're handling things just fine. Don't push him, you will only end up causing a rift in your relationship. Support him and help him find his own way. Continue to practice your faith and invite him to church on special occasions (but be ok with it if he says no). He might come back to your faith when he matures a bit but be ok with it if he doesn't.
Answer by beeky at 9:58 AM on Mar. 11, 2010
I think anyone from any religion feels bad when their children don't follow the same path they do. But God did give us free will. And I think most people don't even realise how much they need God until they have experienced life a little. All you can do is be a good example and pray for him. You never know, someday the path may lead him right back home.
Answer by BlooBird at 10:03 AM on Mar. 11, 2010
He is growing up and trying to find his own identity and figure out what it is he believes in. This is normal. If you try to push him to change you'll give him more of a reason to rebel. Listen to him, without judging him and love him.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 10:13 AM on Mar. 11, 2010
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