I use reward charts and I take toys away. My dd is 5 and most of the time she is a great kid but we have our moments, normally one stern look from her dad and she immediately stops whatever she is doing. My boys were very much the same way, we established early on that when dad or mom make that face you are in deep trouble and better listen.
My nephew on the other hand had no sense of what being told no was so when he lived with us i did a reward system, if he was being good he had a sticker, if he was bad i took it away and he had to earn it back with good behavior. At the end of the day if he still had his sticker then he got to pick a small prize from a box i had with inexpensive things like tattoos, rubber bugs, sticky hands etc. at the end of the week if he made it all 7 days with a sticker at the end of each day we did ice cream. It worked and I had him in line in no time.
at 5:36 PM on Mar. 11, 2010