My son is 7, his one friend is 8 or 9. This "friend" told my son, who is biracial, that he hates all "brown or black" people, but white people are okay. My husband is hispanic, I am white. BOTH of my kids are biracial and I teach them not to judge people for how they look, the color of their skin, etc. I have known my sons friend's mother since I was in 3rd grade. I told her about this and I am even going to speak to the school, since this happen in school. My son is terribly upset and now says he only has one friend because he doesn't want to be friends with this kid anymore, not that I blame him. This kid didn't know my son was biracial, he merely thought my son was white. I can't understand why, my son is CLEARLY part hispanic. How do I handle something like this? I've never had this kind of thing happen to me before.
The Southern Poverty Law Center has fantastic resources. I would try to get "Teaching Tolerance" in the school http://www.splcenter.org/what-we-do/teaching-tolerance
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Answer by mommymeg03 at 8:41 PM on Mar. 12, 2010
I think your son is the perfect position to change that kid's views. Obviously he's repeating what he's learned from adults. Having your son point out to the other boy that they get along and he's not white may be a good thing for the other boy. What better way for him to learn that what ever adult in his life giving him that info isn't worth listening to. At that age peer pressure can be far more powerful than anything. In this case, that could be a good thing.
Answer by maxswolfsuit at 9:22 PM on Mar. 12, 2010
Well I think you have two options. One is to keep your child away from the other. Another is to talk with your son and have your son explain to the other kid why his feelings were hurt. Perhaps if the boy heard why it is wrong to judge others from your son then maybe he will change his mind. He's only repeating what he's heard anyway and doesn't know better till someone else teaches him its wrong. So what I'd do is have your son talk to the kid and tell him why its wrong to be racist. And if the kid still hurts your sons feelings and refuses to apologize then keep the kid away from your son.
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