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Should people who have children naturally have to jump through the same hoops as people who adopt?

I just think it's weird that people can have kids no matter what their situation, but people looking to adopt have to do a bunch of stuff to prove they are worthy of raising kids. Thoughts?


Asked by Anonymous at 5:26 PM on Mar. 14, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Well that would take care of the population growth. We adopted through the state and we had to prove we could afford it with check stubs, bank records, and tax records. We had to pass a physical. We had to have our home inspected and everything had to be to code. They even measured the height of our step (one step) up to the house because it had to be under 8 inches. We had to have references from family and friends AND those people had to be interviewed. Plus we had several interviews both together and separate to make sure our stories matched. We had to do an extensive family history. Had to prove we had insurance on everything. He had to take 11 weeks of parenting classes. And be fingerprinted.  I'm willing to bet most people would not subject themselves to all that before having a child.  And even if they did, how many could pass.


    Answer by BlooBird at 6:19 PM on Mar. 14, 2010

  • I think doctor's offices should have mothers groups in a chat room atmosphere, or community services in towns should or churches/synegogues should for anyone of any religion or race be included. Something like any of those would help no matter adoptive or birth parents.

    There's just got to be more community support for parents.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:36 PM on Mar. 14, 2010

  • If that happened and it was enforceable, our population would die out! :P

    Answer by kuriequinn at 5:36 PM on Mar. 14, 2010

  • No. There should be a change in how adoption is done. But there should also be a change in a lot of areas. Legislating reproduction would end adoption though.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:40 PM on Mar. 14, 2010

  • It would be nice if they did. We'd have better parents and less crime from children who don't feel loved and understood bc they have ignorant and abusive parents who don't take parenting seriously. they think they can donate sperm and squat the egg out and their job is over.

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:42 PM on Mar. 14, 2010

  • Emotionally there is a huge difference between adoptiong and having your own child. Adopted people loose their culture, their entire family, and go through a lot of trauma being removed from absolutely everything they know.
    Ensuring that children who NEED to be adopted go to good homes is the least we can do as a society.

    Answer by Piskie at 4:50 AM on Mar. 15, 2010