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My daughter is not quite 14. Today, the girl who WAS her best friend told her they were no longer friends. Her reasoning? My daughter 'dresses weirdly' and 'likes strange old music'. She told my daughter that if it came down to a choice between 'weird' and 'popular' she was choosing popular, so bye-bye friendship.
My daughter's 'weird' dress sense is that she wears modest clothing - longer skirts, full-coverage tops and the like. She doesn't dress like a teenage prostitute which seems to be fashionable. Her 'weird' music tastes is that she has a lot of Queen on her mp3 player and doesn't like Gangsta Rap.
I don't hate this other kid - but I'm really disappointed in how she has left my daughter feeling worthless and betrayed. How can I help my daughter to see that her strength in being her own person is a Good Thing?
Answer by fallnangel93 at 7:31 AM on Mar. 15, 2010
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Answer by Rachel24517 at 8:28 AM on Mar. 15, 2010
The same thing happened to my daughter last year, though her friend didn't even bother to tell her - she just stopped inviting my daughter over and always had something to do when my daughter invited her. We are still struggling with trying to get her "out there" again to make new friends that will be true. I feel that she is afraid to leave herself vulnerable to that sort of disappointment again. I am trying to get her involved in activities without much luck, and we make sure she feels special in our family so she at least has an emotionally safe place to be. My daughter seems happy enough, but she doesn't really have any close friends right now. I am hoping going to high school next year will give her a fresh start. I don't really have any great suggestions. I just wanted to let you know your daughter is not alone.
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