We went last weekend to visit my DD's bmom. We were waiting for her at her mom's house, and she showed up high on meth. Her family confronted her about this and some of the things she was doing, and there was a lot of yelling and cussing - all this in front of my two small kids, her son, and her little nephew. The whole ordeal lasted several hours. I would have left with my kids to get a hotel room, but didn't feel good about leaving her sister there alone with her and their two kids.
I called her mom yesterday to thank her for having us, and to ask her to let us know when R is clean so we can see her again. She said that she thinks it's better if R doesn't see "our" daughter until she is more stable. The rest of the family thinks that she's been having setbacks after every visit the last few years, and they think she's better off not seeing DD. (continued)
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You have of course made the right decision. I do feel for the birth mother addiction to meth whew then a vicious cycle of feeling guilty and then wanting relief, that is tough.Absolutely though your children can not be exposed to that.I do feel your relationship with her is not based on her mothers wishes.You don't have the same relationship with her that her mom has.Your relationship is based on your daughter--that's your guide.I agree keep the communication open,it works for everyone.Maybe one day prayers will come true and seeing her daughter will be a motivating factor,a reward maybe,for staying clean and she can have the relationship that is best for your daughter.
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