Since her graduation, my 18 year old daughter has made some very foolish decisions concerning her friends, college and money to name a few. We are very close. We go to the movies, shopping, we have even started playing sand volleyball together. So, these decisions hurt and upset me everytime I learn something new that she has done. I feel like I need to take a step back and just let her live her life. The only reason these things upset me so bad is becuse I know about them. If I remove myself from the situation I feel like I would be able to see her differently. I would still be here for her and she will be welcome to the house any time she wants, but i think It's best if I just don't know EVERYTHING. If she was wanting advice then of course I want to know, but at this point in her life that the last thing she wants, especially from me.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:50 PM on Mar. 19, 2010 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by admckenzie at 10:52 PM on Mar. 19, 2010
Answer by FuzNet at 10:59 PM on Mar. 19, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:43 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by twinsplus2more at 8:46 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Two good quotes of yours:
just let her live her life
It's best if I just don't know EVERYTHING.
Focus your energies on you now. She is moving on as so should you.
Answer by Anonymous at 9:28 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by wallmom1 at 11:42 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 1:38 PM on Mar. 20, 2010
NO, She gets herself into financial trouble.....SHE GETS HERSELF OUT of financial trouble!!! She is an adult! She has created her own mess and needs to be adult and deal with it herself!!! You need to LET GO and LET HER GROW UP and TAKE ADULT RESPONSIBILITY FOR HER MESSES!!!! T
The worst thing you can do is bail her out every time she makes a mistake. She has to learn that actions have consequences. So stop bailing her out. She's got to figure out that life requires one to pull up their "big girl panties" and get responsible for one's own choices. She has chosen to get behind on her insurance. She has to figure out how to get out from under that.
Answer by twinsplus2more at 5:29 PM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 7:59 PM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by twinsplus2more at 8:53 PM on Mar. 20, 2010
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