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What would you say to a woman who is..

actively TTC, might be pregnant but wants to drink?

Just curious, it's not about me just a spinoff of another question. I would love to see others point of view on this.

I personally would suggest not to because she could be pregnant. I think it is one thing to drink when you don't know you are pregnant but also wasn't tring to get pregnant but a whole nother thing to drink when you are TTC and fully aware that you could be pregnant.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:09 AM on Mar. 20, 2010 in Just for Fun

Answers (6)
  • I would think it's a very bad idea but I don't know if I would say anything. If I knew for sure she was pregnant, maybe. I would hope her husband would have the sense to step in and talk to her.

    Answer by wildflowers25 at 1:13 AM on Mar. 20, 2010

  • How much are we talking here? A beer? A glass of wine? I knew I could be pregnant and had a beer the night before I found out. I'm 20 weeks now and I take sips of my hubby's beer every once in a while. I did some research on fetal alcohol syndrome when I was in high school. Here's what I found.

    7 out of 10 women admit to consuming alcohol during pregnancy.

    1 of those 7 admit to drinking 7 or more drinks PER WEEK throughout pregnancy.

    1 in 12,000 babies is born with FAS.

    You have to drink A LOT to cause problems for a baby. One here and there is not going to cause any problems. I NEVER recommend drinking more than one or two, though.

    Answer by Ati_13 at 1:22 AM on Mar. 20, 2010

  • Ati, I am not sure where you got your information from but it is completely false. I am a counselor that works with many people who have FASD. It used to be thought that a pregnant women would have to drink a lot for a child to have FAS which used to be categorized by the flat facial features. They realize now that FAS is on a spectrum. A child will not have the facial features but can have learning disabilities, lower than average cognitive abilities, ADD, ADHD, ODD, etc. I would seriously abstain completely. Why take the chance?


    Answer by FL2AK at 1:46 AM on Mar. 20, 2010

  • I agree, why take the chance? I dont think I would say anything cuz I guess thats their choice but I dont think its okay, and I would never do so myself.

    Answer by Sophie4910 at 1:48 AM on Mar. 20, 2010

  • I would say it is nobody's business. It is between her and her doctor. Her conscience and her self control should tell her not to drink....not you.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:33 AM on Mar. 20, 2010

  • Are we talking about getting falling down drunk every weekend, or are we talking about one glass of wine on her wedding anniversary? There's a hell of a lot of difference there. Moderation in all things, and very little to no alcohol if pregnant, but she doesn't even know if she is or not yet, so I don't think once would hurt.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:54 AM on Mar. 20, 2010

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