so I found out last night my husband is flirting with his best friends sister who happens to be married with a child. So instead of getting pissed like i usually do i just let myself sleep off the hurt and then told him this morning that we needed to set a few bounderies. I said that he needs to stop talking to the sister and will no longer be able to go to his friends house since I dont know if she will be there or not.
He got pretty upset with me and so i said I am not the one who decided to flirt with my best friends sister. He has done this in the past when i was pregnant with our second son and i am now 35 weeks and he is doing it again.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:18 AM on Mar. 20, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Bearsjen at 10:22 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by ArkTech at 10:22 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:27 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Tell the lady's husband, stick to your guns about your man cutting all contact with her, and if he refuses, leave. It's as simple as that. He has done this to you in the past, you stay and continue to get pregnant by him, he knows that he can walk all over you. Show him how strong you are, show him that this behaviour will not be tolerated.
Answer by -xoxo- at 10:31 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Answer by mommy5409 at 10:34 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
No you didn't handle that right at all. You should never give him orders! You should have told him that you were hurt and upset about the way he flirted, thereby opening the door to a dialogue and hopefully a resolution you can both live with. Imposing demands will always damage a relationship.
Answer by beeky at 10:35 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
Honestly Id be upset myself and might have done the same thing you did. However keeping him from this one girl will not solve the problem , If your huband flirts then hes a flirt. He will flirt with someone else... Its a sad reality to women like us who find it inappropriate. You can not keep him away from women , its just unrealistic. I think this is something you and your husband will need to talk about. If its hard to communicate I'd recommend counseling. If this relationship is worth it to you, you will need to learn to #1 live with it or #2 seek counseling to work through this with him. I'm sorry your husbands not being more respectful of you and your feelings about this , but forcing him to stay away from someone doesn't sound like a solution to me.
Answer by marie85 at 10:38 AM on Mar. 20, 2010
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