To any of those that had an open adoption where you get more information on the birthmom what did you look for ?
My perspective Ap's i feel are expecting way to much from me from medical records on my family and everything almost like they expect the perfect child.
However,they have had failed adoptions and surrogacy so makes me wonder if they are being cautious or unreasonable ?
Could anybody share what is fair since i feel that i have rights to my privacy as they do in certain aspects.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:05 PM on Mar. 21, 2010 in Adoption
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 8:17 PM on Mar. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 8:31 PM on Mar. 21, 2010
Are they asking to be prepared or are they asking to be sure the child doesn't have these issues. If they would like to be prepared and willing to deal with any issues that arise then I would provide the information. I think any genetic issues and vital organ issues should be disclosed especially in the instance like the first poster. If they are looking for the perfect child then I would go on to different couple because no child is going to be perfect. There are so many things could happen a few years down the road and if they were having a bio child they would have any guarantees on genetic abnormalities. I don't have medical history on my older son (my biochild, BF rights terminated) but, we have contact with bio-dad and can get info, my younger son, we know he has issues mostly because his mother did drugs while pregnant other than that bio-family unwilling to give any other information. Sorry for rambling.
Answer by matthewscandi at 8:49 PM on Mar. 21, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 8:51 PM on Mar. 21, 2010
Answer by doodlebopfan at 9:13 PM on Mar. 21, 2010
I didn't expect a "right" to privacywhen we were asked to meet or talk to expectant women who were considering placing their child. Of course I wasn't going to talk about my sex life or hand out my social security number....but truly there wasn't a question that I wouldn't have answered to the best of my ability. I didn't ask questions about genetics but to us that wasn't really a factor. For one couple I knew it was a big factor for them. If grandparents or some genetic disorder was in the family, drug abuse, or alcohol abuse was involved they did not want to be asked to meet the perspective match.Â They did want to try and ensure, as best as anyone could, to have a healthy baby.Â They wereÂ chosen to parent a beautiful baby girl, are wonderful parents to her, and are very happy.Â But that beautiful little girl could have not developed as normally as her peers and ended
Answer by frogdawg at 9:29 PM on Mar. 21, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 9:42 PM on Mar. 21, 2010