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What do you teach your kids about race? Do you teach them to be colorblind, or do you teach them that there are different races (and/ or colors) and we all are equal, or do you not teach them anything?

I live in a very racist area. I don't want my kids to think that because they are white, they are better. I used to think that I should teach them to be colorblind, but now I am leaning towards having them learn about people and teaching them that in the grand scheme of things, we are all equal. How do you do it?

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:26 PM on Mar. 21, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • Well I teach about diff ethnicities, and do not pass judgement on to them and they seem to be humanitarians so i think im doing good.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:29 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • My kids learn about people. Not colors

    Answer by Mrs.Owen86 at 8:29 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • There was a study done that showed parents who tried to teach their children to be "colorblind" actually emphasized disparities and negative attitudes. These parents taught their kids that there was nothing different about anyone, and we were all the "same." Parents who acknowledged the differences in the races, i.e. skin color, hair color, eye shape, etc., actually had children who were "colorblind" as we would like children to be. These children understood there were differences, but didn't care, and the differences were not factored into value judgments. I wish I could remember the article name, but I believe it was published in either Newsweek or Time.

    Children are going to notice the differences in physical appearance, so teaching them physical appearance is just one factor in the whole of a person is the best approach. I will teach my kids to go beyond the skin and look to the heart.

    Answer by Busimommi at 8:35 PM on Mar. 21, 2010


    Here it is!

    Answer by Busimommi at 8:36 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • OP here. I read that story, and that is what has made me want to change my approach. I know that I see color, but I choose to see past that. I hope I can teach my children to do the same!

    I struggle with it because we are surrounded by racist people. Neighbors, family, etc. I do not want my children to pick up on it. Racism and other prejudices make me sad.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:44 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • I (as part of homeschooling but it doesn't have to be part of that) teach about the benefits of all the cultures and how we learned things from them. I don't think you can truly be color blind... esp since you live in a racist area. I would just teach your kids that everyone is different and that they should be proud of their heritage but also recognise other heritages as important as well.


    Answer by Tf1990 at 8:46 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • We do read about other cultures, but have friends of mixed families and never have said a thing about the color of anyone's skin (color does not equal race. "White" is not a race) My kids have said (they are 4 & 5) "His skin is brown but mine is peach" and I say yeah, you're right! Just like I would if they said "that tree branch is brown and those leaves are green"

    Answer by txdaniella at 9:02 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • I don't think that trying to teach kids to be colourblind is effective. I mean, colour is part of who a person is, part of their description. It doesn't define who they are or what they are like, but to try to tell a kid - who can clearly see that their friend at school has darker skin or slanted eyes - that those differences aren't there, doesn't work. I teach mine that we are all different in appearance, but that what a person looks like is less important than how they act. It's no different than explaining physical handicaps or deformities. The amputee isn't defined by his prosthetic hand any more than the black person is by the colour of his skin. What defines them is their thoughts and actions. That's what I teach my kids.

    Answer by canadianmom1974 at 9:09 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • Our primary message has been that people come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

    Answer by rkoloms at 9:16 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

  • We have a mixed race family and learn about the different races.

    Answer by BlooBird at 9:31 PM on Mar. 21, 2010

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