i'm engaged to a wonderful man who has a 9yr old boy from a previous marriage. the boy's mother allows him to do anything, when he comes to our house he likes to think he runs things. should i just sit back or do i have some say in this. any help would be greatly appreciated.Answer Question
In this case, I would seriously talk with your soon to be husband and see how he wants you to be involved. Are both of you on the same page as far as discipline, while the son is in your care?
Answer by JeremysMom at 9:00 PM on Mar. 23, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 9:07 PM on Mar. 23, 2010
He is too old for you to be any form of disciplinarian, so, it is EXTREMELY important that you and your fiance sit down and discuss house rules and things you expect and what he expects. Then it is up to your fiance to establish these rules with his son, you are your husband's support system, not this boy's mother, just always remember that. Being a stepmom is the hardest job in the world, you are expected to treat the child as you would your own, yet you have zero authority over him. I know, I have an 18YO step son who has been in my life since he was 6. And make sure you have clear boundaries with the ex. Do not become friends with her, be polite, be business-like, heck, you can even be cordial, but that is where it ends, trust me. Oh, and get a house account at your local liquore store, lol.
Answer by gramsmom at 9:23 PM on Mar. 23, 2010
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