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Do you think a mom can be an attachment parent if she works outside her home ft?

Just curious on your thoughts on this one.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:11 PM on Mar. 23, 2010 in General Parenting

Answers (18)
  • Yes, if she does AP type things when around her child.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:14 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • if she's not attached to her child for 34-40 hours a week then she's not an attachment parent. Attachment parenting usually mean you leave your child rarely if at all and not for long periods of time.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:18 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • That is the very misconception sweetheart. It means you Eight principles of attachment parenting
    Per Dr. Sears' theory of attachment parenting (AP), proponents such as the API attempt to foster a secure bond with their children by promoting eight principles which are identified as goals for parents to strive for. These eight principles are:

    1.Preparation for Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting
    2.Feed with Love and Respect
    3.Respond with Sensitivity
    4.Use Nurturing Touch
    5.Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
    6.Provide Consistent Loving Care
    7.Practice Positive Discipline
    8.Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life
    These values are interpreted in a variety of ways. Many attachment parents also choose to live a natural family living (NFL) lifestyle, such as natural childbirth, home birth, stay-at-home parenting, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, babywearing, homeschooling, unschooling, the anti-circumcision CONT

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:26 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • movement, natural health, cooperative movements, naturism and support of organic and local foods.

    However, Dr. Sears does not require a parent to strictly follow any set of rules, instead encouraging parents to be creative in responding to their child's needs. Attachment parenting, outside the guise of Dr. Sears, focuses on responses that support secure attachments.

    Attachment parenting proponents value secure attachment between children and a primary caregiver, preferably a parent or guardian. Secure primary or secondary attachments may also be formed with other caregiving adults and should be supported by the parents.

    Even when engaging non-parental caregivers, Attachment Parents strive to maintain healthy, secure attachments with their children. AP-friendly childcare is a continuation of the nurturing care given by the parents and focuses on meeting the child's needs.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:28 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • By the definitions Bradens mommy just put up-Im doing Attachment Parenting (unintentionally) and I work outside the home.

    Answer by ArkTech at 10:33 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • 9. ditch your child with a babysitter.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:52 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • Maybe Babysitter is Grandma, which is just fine. Anon: Don't be an ass.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 10:54 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • Thanks for all the info.

    Answer by Sillybillymel at 11:11 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • You're welcome.

    Answer by BradenIsMySon at 11:17 PM on Mar. 23, 2010

  • Hmm.. this really is kind of a question about the principles of Attachment Parenting.. never heard of it before I read this post.. But preparation for pregnancy, birth and parenting... Does preparation for Parenting count for parents who have adopted?? Just curious, because it seems like I do everything else on the list. But... couldn't get pregnant and my daughter is as attached to her father and I as any child could be to her parents.

    Answer by TeresaAnne at 12:11 AM on Mar. 24, 2010

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