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serious question, maybe TMI

DH has a couple ruptured disks, hitting his sciatic nerve, making his leg go numb. the past couple of days he can't ejaculate...tonight we tried 3 times and he had an orgasm each time, and he said he felt like he had to cum, but it just didn't come out. not even precum. i'm wondering if this has anything to do with the sciatic nerve being pinched? i know it can make you lose control of bodily functions, but is that the same? he's had a doc appt, a few weeks ago, but the earliest they can get him for a follow up is next i just thought i'd ask yall. i googled it but i can't find anything on it. TIA

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:49 PM on Mar. 24, 2010 in Relationships

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  • Yes back problems can cause sex and bathroom type issues. Are they doing anything to help his back? My husband had a microdiscectomy and it has helped his back a lot. He still used cealis though. Personally I think he has gotten used to using it and thinks he can't perform with out it. Maybe not.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:57 PM on Mar. 24, 2010

  • not yet. monday it will be about a month after his first appt. so we won't know anything until then. thank you

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:05 AM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • OP here- i meant to ask, how is his back after having the surgery? i heard that after having back surgery sometimes you have to have it he fully healed or does he need a follow up procedure or anything?

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:13 AM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • There are so many different types of surgery. Microdiskectomy is when they go in and shave off the bit of disk pinching the nerve (he had three disks worked on). He was walking the next day pain free. He still needed time to heal but now he is back to work with no restrictions. It's been 3 years with no more back problems.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 AM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • The fact that your husband even makes the attempt is a bloody miracle! Mine has fractured vertebrae from a motorcycle accident in 2004. The pain is an instant libido killer. He's avoided surgery to this point because it has a 50-50 chance of success, but he did finally consult a surgeon this month. Still waiting on the MRIs for a recommendation.

    What you report is unsurprising to me...what IS surprising is that he tries at all.

    Answer by gdiamante at 2:15 AM on Mar. 25, 2010

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