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Can anyone offer some insight on separation anxiety in an adolescent?

My daughter is 10 and has severe separation anxiety. It is relatively new and she only goes to school b/c we force her to. She's on meds for anxiety/panic, but still has major crying episodes every night & morning before school. She goes to the nurse trying to get sent home, but we've informed her not to since there really is no reason to come home. We're at our wit's end, can anyone help? Has anyone out there ever gone thru this with their tween? She never had any sep. anxiety as a small child, just developed it within the last 2 mos. Everyone at school is on board to help: adj. counselors, teachers, nurse, vice principal/principal. She has been checked inside & out and nothing physical is wrong. We bought her new glasses b/c she said her eyes hurt, a new bed b/c of severe insomnia, a new bike and treadmill for exercise, but the bottome line is still fear/anxiety about going to school. Can anyone help?

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:54 PM on Mar. 24, 2010 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • has anything happened at school. it sounds really strange that she was fine and then all of a sudden doesn't want to go to school. ask yourself if she's afraid of going anywhere else??? friends homes? or other places she doesn't have you around...?

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:57 PM on Mar. 24, 2010

  • honey, you need to fix the underlying cause of all this, not just buy her new things and put her on meds.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:14 AM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • Just curious, were you an "attachment" parent when she was a baby?

    Answer by Happypancake at 9:35 AM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • Change schools. Just see if it helps any...Or Maybe a small school with fewer children?

    It does seem odd that she is 10 and scared of school.I think something is going on at her school and she is not telling you...

    Answer by ryanlynn at 10:18 AM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • It sounds to me like there's something else going on at school other than what she's telling you. But if there's not, it would be a good idea for her to see a counselor, even the school counselor should suffice. She can be taught relaxation techniques and other coping skills to deal with her anxiety. the most effective treatment for anxiety is medication ANDsome sort of counseling.
    And what does it matter if she was an attachment parent? Good grief, you people and your bandwagons.

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:27 AM on Mar. 26, 2010

  • This sounds similar to a good friend of mine's son. He was just diagnosed with OCD. Have you had her evaluated by a psychologist?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:59 AM on Mar. 28, 2010

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