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What do you say to someone who is pregnant and .........

is unmarried, does not know for sure who the father is, and already has one child they don't take care of?

I'm not exactly sure how to respond to news about the pregnancy. "Congratulations" seems a little ridiculous.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:08 PM on Mar. 25, 2010 in Pregnancy

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  • I would say, "wow, i guess you didnt learn the first time. Sorry to hear that."
    forevermom75

    Answer by forevermom75 at 3:10 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • You can always just say "wow, so how have you been feeling?"
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:11 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • When someone is pregnant and clearly in a bad or awkward situation, I just say 'how do you feel about it?"
    danielp

    Answer by danielp at 3:11 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • I would say, What are you going to do now?
    MiddletonFamily

    Answer by MiddletonFamily at 3:11 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • give them them the name and numbers for some adoption agencies
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:11 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • ok, thats all i would say, and goodluck
    dkej242

    Answer by dkej242 at 3:12 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • If someone in that situation gave me their news I would have probably said, "Really? Wow...." and not had much to say after that!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • Why do you feel the need to say anything?

    My first response with any pregnant woman that could or could not be happy with it, married or not is "Are we happy?" then a congrats if they say yes.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:13 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • Why do you feel the need to say anything?


    If someone tells you, texts you or emails you they are pregnant, you don't think they are expecting a response in return?

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:19 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

  • Since you don't know how to respond I suspect you aren't really close to this woman. In that case I'd probably ask her how she's feeling or something and let her take the lead from there. You don't have to act like she's just won the lottery or anything, but it would be nice to at least ask her how she's doing.


    Another option might be, "Oh, Wow! When are you due?" - surprise and interest without being overly-congratulatory.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:43 PM on Mar. 25, 2010

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