My fiancee' kinda just became my sons father and his biological father is not in the picture at all per my wishes. Right now my son, Braden is only 2 but I know in the future the topic of his wondering why he is darker than Mommy, daddy & Sissy will come up. So when would be the best time to explain the situation to him? Ladies please give me your input it very much appriciated. thank you!Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 11:09 PM on Mar. 25, 2010
Answer by BradenIsMySon at 11:10 PM on Mar. 25, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:11 PM on Mar. 25, 2010
whenever (if ever) he asks, tell him. my middle child is the result of a violent rape, and his appearance makes it fairly obvious that my husband is not his biological father. i'm sure he'll ask some day. i plan on telling him the bare minimum about how he came to be. i think in situations like this, it's best to let the child guide the conversation. answer any questions vaguely enough to halt further curiosity, but thoroughly enough to satisfy them. ie"why is my skin different?" -because you have a different father. "isn't daddy my father?" -no. daddy is your daddy. sometimes children have both, and that's ok. i know it's an extremely difficult situation, but i can almost guarantee it's harder on you than it ever will be on him, especially if he has a daddy who loves him.
Answer by bestmommyeber at 11:13 PM on Mar. 25, 2010
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Answer by maggiemom2000 at 12:21 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Quoting OP-My fiancee' kinda just became my sons father and his biological father is not in the picture at all per my wishes.
It doesn't sound like to me that he IS adopted. It sounds as though your boyfriend is filling "dad's" shoes, but if his biological father's right's haven't been terminated, and if your BF hasn't signed legal paperwork (which is usually reserved for DH's and even then-serious thought should be given to this), then I think what you are concerned about is the "race" of your son. You are concerned about "skin color" and you WILL have to answer some questions about this, but I agree to let your son lead the conversation.
Answer by doodlebopfan at 1:41 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 3:00 PM on Mar. 28, 2010