Back story...I am bisexual but I'm married and committed. My husband and I seperated for a minute 2 years ago because we thought we wanted to have a threesome, but I ended up falling for her and got confused. I'm not trying to go down that road again. I love DH and truly want to be with him for life. But now I shy away from befriending attractive women because I'm afraid of the temptation. Its very frustrating. Am I alone?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:41 PM on Mar. 25, 2010 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 11:44 PM on Mar. 25, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 12:17 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Ancient Chinese proverb: "You don't marry a woman just because she's attractive, that would be like buying a house because you liked the paint." I'm bi and am quite comfortable around attractive women. I consider them "eye candy." LOL. However, experience has taught me to look for the beauty within, more so than the exterior. It's difficult, but not impossible, to close Pandora's box once opened. You never slip and fall on having sex with someone. You make a conscious decision. The real question is: Are you content with a heterosexual relationship?
Answer by Ewadun at 4:59 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by hot-mama86 at 5:59 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 11:27 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
To OP: I understand your feelings and perhaps you should consider doing as I did, joining a Lesbian/Bi support group? Would you believe that in the Lesbian group, Bi's are not very well liked? They believe we are confused and transmit diseases. I've yet to find a Bi group, in my new city. In the meanwhile, I too squash my feelings and walk away from any attractions. I've chosen abstinence. Hasn't solved my dilemma, like yours. I know that I deeply resent a man wanting to enjoy the benefits, without doing the work or assuming the responsibility. also have religious beliefs that conflict with my feelings. It is a pain that I've endured for years. Don't use getting drunk as an excuse. Self acceptance is the key. Last, consider getting a sexual therapist to ease your pain without causing further injury or harm to your marriage.For years, I've wished I never opened Pan
Answer by Ewadun at 12:42 PM on Mar. 27, 2010
Answer by Ewadun at 12:47 PM on Mar. 27, 2010