I have had many issues with my mother for many years. It just has become worse over the past five years to the point that I get irritated talking to her. Our relationship has been strained, but I guess she didn't know why till last week when It all blew up last week while I was in the hospital having a baby of all times. I haven't head from her since cause she started to cry and hung up on me. I didn't want to hurt her, but I was full of hormones and emotion and it all just came out. So without getting into the history, how do you deal with issues like this?Answer Question
Answer by shay1130 at 8:38 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
I just made myself realize : you can't change the past and you can't make someone or wish someone was something they are not. You just have to accept how someone is and deal with it.
Answer by kjfamily at 8:39 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by shay1130 at 8:39 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by hot-mama86 at 8:41 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by ThrivingMom at 9:00 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by CloudWeaver at 9:04 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by offrdngal at 9:14 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by Stefono at 9:23 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
I used to stress A LOT now it is less.My sister has a better,still not great,relationship with her.my sister and therapy helped me realize while Ia m far from perfect my mom is mean to all adult relatives especially me..It was pointed out to me that when angered,put out ,thinks she is right whatever she ratchets it up till she draws blood.There is no limit on the things she will say to try to get me, mostly, to my knees.So I talk to her by phone once a week and have to go if she starts.She had minor day surgery,took her,waited,home, got meds and dinner for her and stayed till my sister got there.We do celebrate holidays together with the whole family.About 5 times a year I meet her for lunch.The grandchildren are old enough to have an occasional Sun.afternoon visit alone.HA as my oldest is out of college he is choosing to put her at arms length also..foolish foolish woman.Arms length if you can tolerate that.
Answer by drfink at 9:41 AM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 10:04 AM on Mar. 26, 2010