My 12yr old has told us that several of his friends do drugs. He insists they don't 'push' him to do drugs and that he wouldn't do them but I'm afraid eventually he will get curious. Would you have a problem with him hanging around with these kids or would you tell him he can't see them anymore? His Dad thinks if we restrict him he might shut down and not tell us anything anymore.
Asked by Anonymous at 5:31 PM on Mar. 26, 2010 in General Parenting
Answer by Laila-May at 5:35 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by mommy_of_two388 at 5:33 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
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Answer by Anonymous at 5:35 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by Lifes-A-Dance at 5:35 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
Outside of school those kids would be OFF LIMITS! I have a 13 year old and she HAS lost friends on account of us not allowing her to do things that are wildly inappropriate just because her friends were doing them. I feel bad about this, but I think she does understand it is in her best interest. I actually heard another girl bragging to her about all the crap her dad let her do/have, and my daughter told her that wasn't necessarily a good thing. She KNOWS we are protecting her, and she appreciates it. Saying they will eventually be exposed and try it is no excuse. Your kids should know that you DISAPPROVE of this behavior 100% with no exceptions. Tell your son you are proud of him for resisting peer pressure and being more mature than his buddies, but don't let him hang out with them. Keep the good friends who are good influences and ditch the rest.
Answer by Anonymous at 5:43 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by Orionsgirl at 5:45 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by kimberlyinberea at 5:57 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
I would not let them hang around kids who do drugs. That is asking for trouble. People make the mistake of assuming their children reason at the level of adults. Their brains are not wired that way and being able to make sound decisions come with time and age. Even us adults struggle with making tough decisions and we all know that hanging around people who are no good is not the best thing to do. Besides to me that is quite young to be doing drugs. I would wonder about their parents a little and see what they're doing to help their kids.
Answer by SylviaNCali at 6:12 PM on Mar. 26, 2010
Answer by Anonymous at 6:25 PM on Mar. 26, 2010