and talking with other members of the adoption triad? Please feel free to answer anonymously to foster an honest discussion (respectful, though, please - we are all allowed to have different ideas).
When I first came here about 16 months ago, I thought that open adoption was pretty much always possible, and almost always a good idea. I still think it is best when it is healthy, but after reading stories from some of the women here, I can see that there are times when contact is not a good idea. I am also more aware of trying to see things from the adoptee's POV. When we first started looking into adoption, I had no idea that women might be pressured into placing. I don't believe that always happens, but I do believe now that it happens sometimes. I think I've also learned more about giving our (adopted) children the truth and the tools they need to have a healthy view of themselves.
Answer by Kellyjude1 at 11:25 AM on Mar. 29, 2010
No my opinions haven't changed since being here on cafemom. But that is because I have a lot of real life experiences that form my opinions about adoption related issues.
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