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Potty training.. Need Advice Please

We have just started to potty train our 3 year old daughter.We just bought her some underwear about a week ago and she does really good during the day but its at night that she has all of her accidents.She tells us that she has to go potty and somtimes she makes it but sometimes she will tell us and she has already gone in her underwear.Does anyone have any advice to try and get her to do better at night and sometimes during the day.Also our daughter has to poop but wont poop on the potty she hasnt pooped in about 5 days any advice for that too.Thank you so much.

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Asked by Babygurl2409 at 1:09 PM on Mar. 31, 2010 in General Parenting

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  • my son is potty trained durin gthe day....but not at night, at night he still wears diapers until he is older, and can understand the night time concept thing, When my son didn't poop for like 4 days because we were potty training, i put a diaper on him for hte day, just so he would go because i was so worried, and then after that he started going in the potty. Not sure how much help this is, but good luck!

    Answer by NaKeYJaKeYsMoMy at 1:28 PM on Mar. 31, 2010

  • There are so many different opinions about this -- potty training is so individual. Some kids potty train by two while others aren't completely done until four. Your daughter sounds pretty normal. You have to remember their bladders are little and aren't big enough or trained to hold it like ours. The big thing is don't start potty training until both you and your daughter are ready. You also have to be ready to be able to devote the time and energy necessary to encourage your daughter on a daily basis.

    Here is a fabulous site with amazing information:

    Don't worry she won't be going to kindergarten in pull ups:) It will happen. You will be amazed how quickly when she decides she's ready:)

    Answer by jwoap at 1:30 PM on Mar. 31, 2010

  • She sounds pretty normal. It's much harder at night (either evening when they are tired and worn out, or during the night because they sleep soundly). My niece is 6 and still uses those Good Nights trainers because she just doesn't wake up when she has to go. It sounds like you are doing fine, so just keep being consistent and don't push her too hard. Some kids take longer to poop on the potty, but it will happen. If you think she's scared of it, get her a little potty, or a seat that fits on the big potty. If she is actually constipated, give her some prune juice or something high in fiber, and let her have a diaper or pull-up to poop in until she is brave enough to try the potty. A friend of mine cut holes in the back of a pull-ups for her son to poop in (while sitting over the potty) and after a few days, he realized he didn't need the pull-up anymore.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:36 PM on Mar. 31, 2010

  • Most kids don't potty train right away at night. My daughter was so hard headed when she started potty training that she refused the diaper at night, so I took her to the store and let her pick out her own sheets and I told her she couldn't pee on them. My daughter is only 32 months old and has never peed her bed at night. She also did the same thing with the pooping. She would go so few and far between, but eventually she will get the hang of it. It's just alot harder to poop on a potty than in a diaper.

    Answer by hornz102485 at 1:43 PM on Mar. 31, 2010

  • When they happen every night, they're 'normal' not 'accidents.'

    Diapers are to keep the sheets dry, not the baby. Until her kidneys concentrate urine in her sleep, her bladder will automatically and uncontrollably empty when it is full.

    It sounds like she is ready for pullups, not panties. She needs to have a bowel movement, and if this is getting in the way, the physical damage that happens will be gross (google 'impacted bowel' when you have a moment)...

    Answer by LindaClement at 1:52 PM on Mar. 31, 2010

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